That I'm pixxed with him for being pixxed at me?

[NorthernNanny5]

A couple of weeks ago I was going through our bank account online doing some general tidy up, DH has an expensive hobbie which I've never begrudged, he works hard so play hard why not. However I noticed this month his spending was out of control, I brought it up and he said he would rain it in.
Fast forward to today and I notice he has spent more even after we agreed so I raised it and he has been really pissy with me for doing so, saying I should just ask him what it was for (proceeded to give me a long winded explanation that he had to buy several sizes so will return the unwanted ones)
I don't want to control spending, we both work hard for our joint income but I do think you have to be considerate of larger spends by talking together first, if I was also spending at his rate with out discussing we would be in trouble pretty quick.
He's still licking wounds downstairs whist I'm upstairs on MN

Do you have an agreement that you will only spend a certain amount each per month on your own stuff, or has your joint account always been more of a free-for-all? If it's the latter, it's probably bit that surprising he's wondering why you're querying it.

Not saying you're wrong to query it, BTW. It's for this reason that DH and I pool all income, but have a certain amount each per month that we can spend without having to justify it to the other.

i'm more pixxed that you simply don't say pissed!!

he probably feels like your checking up on him. let him stew a bit. he may come around.

I am actually pissed.

I'd like to be pissed, tether. Fnacy paxxing the alcohol?

Here you go

Cheerx

you howwid lot!

Nix your pix, get it fixed by cake mix

Sepererate your spending money, then it's none of your business what he spends his money on and you can't be pixxed off any more.

Likewise you can spend on what you want without his input.

Thanks all, yes why didn't I just say I was bloody pissed!
Are situation is the 'free for all' however his spending
Was close to £800 which is crazy and even if I
Wanted to join the band wagon of free fall all I couldn't as
He has spent it all!
He has stopped being soo pissed this morning, he knows it was selfish but as someone up thread said, he didn't like me checking up. I've told him I don't like doing the the checking up but at 40 I would expect him to be a bit more sensible without me pointing it out.
In short we are going to go with suggestion of each having free money but its limited to that. Bloody men and there toys arhhhh