To keep on correcting my DD's grammatical errors

[pinkmoomin]

Today she has said "I could of" and "me and Josh". When I corrected her she just rolled her eyes and said that everyone in her school speaks like this and she will get called posh if she speaks properly.

I know it should't bother me, but I get the red mist every time.

it's perfectly reasonable and fine to correct your own child's grammatical errors :)

I would.

ps:
go "well, talk like that in front of your friends, then. in front of everyone else, speak correctly"

How old?

It would do my head in if someone kept doing that to me

I always correct my DD's grammatical errors, although she is 4 and learning how to use words correctly. Where I live there are quite a few local grammatical errors that I worry she will pick up such as 'We was' instead of 'We where', I will endeavour to correct those also.

She'll be 10 in December.

I grew up in South London. It was really important to learn how to behave in front of friends and how to behave for older people, jobs, teachers and parents. "Whateva, innit" is all very well but doesn't get you employed. Let DD know that it is fine to speak one way with her friends but that there is another way.

I tell my kids to leave "street" at the door when they come home.

We correct our dd and my dh corrects me. He had a grammar school ed and when I started education at 30 odd I asked him to help.
So our house is full of corrections, but we all appreciate it, except for the dc who say here we go again.

Keep doing it, how will she learn otherwise?

As long as you do it in a subtle and warm way

Poor Ds1 is hugely annoyed by my response to the infernally irritating "Can I get....?" He'll learn

I have a manager at work who writes "should of".

Keep correcting her, and emphasis that she can speak how she likes with her friends but not with adults

I ended up almost bi-lingual, speaking teen slang at school to avoid being the posh one, and perfect queens English at home, to avoid parents nagging - dreaded the first time friends came home, but guess what? when they were with my nicely spoken parents, they all spoke properly too - seems most of us were doing the same thing!

My dds have an inside and an outside language I think it is normal for kids to have that however I think you should correct her nicely that could of is a phrase for her friends, saying that my grammar is shocking sometimes and many a mumsnetter have corrected me

Yes, I think you should. Because even if she doesn't use it all the time, around her friends and family, she will instinctively know which version to use when it counts- interviews and when wanting to impress people. Like "this counts- mum said this would work". At least that's how I would react, if it had been drilled into me.