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To not organise DP's weight loss for him?

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Cookethenook · 02/10/2013 14:53

DP is doing a charity skydive at the end of November, for which he needs to lose about a stone and a half.

We started doing the 5:2 diet two weeks ago and in order to support him, i organised the lunches and dinners for the two 'fasting' days for both of us. It wasn't completely awful, so we discussed which days he was going to do the week after and also talked about him going running or swimming a few times a week, both of which he's very good at.

Of course, none of this happened and then GTA5 came out, which put even more of a hold on the diet. I have casually asked about when he's planning on fasting and exercising and he just fobbed me off with 'oh well, i've been tired/busy'. We have a 4 month old and a lively 7yo, so i do get where he's coming from, but he doesn't seem to appreciate the fact that he just won't be able to do it if he doesn't lose the weight.

I've decided to stop asking him about it and leave the exercising and dieting to him, even though i know that he'll leave it to the last minute, won't be able to lose the weight in time and he won't be able to do the skydive. I know it sounds like i don't think much of his organisational skills, but he does this sort of thing ALL THE TIME and is known for leaving things to the last minute. For example, he's currently doing a few work-based qualifications at the moment and without fail, he always leaves his assignments to the last possible minute.

I feel really cruel, but i also think it's time he takes responsibility for himself. I mean, fgs, i feel like i could be talking about my 7 yo! Am i making the right choice? I feel so mean!

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 02/10/2013 14:54

YANBU - my DH needs to shift a good bit of weight but at the end of the day, if he can't manage it himself there is nothing I can do about it.

MrsTerryPratchett · 02/10/2013 15:01

It's his responsibility. I haven't the foggiest why you are so involved in the first place.

LessMissAbs · 02/10/2013 15:06

I agree, why would you even be involved in this?

ErrolTheDragon · 02/10/2013 15:09

If he's still got a stone and a half to lose within two months, TBH I think he's left it too late already - that's over 2lb per week, every week, which is a lot. Maybe just alert him to the simple maths and then its up to him whether he really wants to do it or not.

Aniseeda · 02/10/2013 16:04

I agree, he's probably left it too late already.

It sounds like you do all/most of the cooking so provide him with healthy meals, but, beyond that, it's up to him.

CMOTDibbler · 02/10/2013 16:12

leave him to it. Not your problem

dexter73 · 02/10/2013 16:19

Does he actually want to do the skydive or would he be relieved not to be able to do it and blame it on his weight?

Retroformica · 02/10/2013 19:51

I think I would tell him that you are not going to organise the diet and that he has to take responsibility now.

BeScarefulWhatYouWitchFor · 02/10/2013 20:08

YANBU his weight loss is his responsibility. If he can't be bothered why should you? Confused

RevelsRoulette · 02/10/2013 20:19

If he really wanted to do it, he would. Running round organising someone is always a bad idea. Let them face the consequences of not getting their arse into gear. When it affects them enough, theyll act.

LayMizzRarb · 02/10/2013 20:26

YABU. IF a guy came on here and posed the same conundrum about his OH , asking if he should organise her diet there would be uproar.

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