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I was made redundant today and I feel so overwhelmed where do I start as

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whowouldofthoughtyesme · 01/10/2013 21:37

tomorrow I have to go in and hand over, they will pay me for a month I do not have to work this ,and I have just been paid , they can not afford to keep me or maybe the business I am so upset,but upset for them and the others.

More so because I was headhunted and they believed in me, and I feel I let them down as well as me,although they said it was all down to money.

They asked me to think about any questions or if I had ideas to change this to turn this around they would welcome this , but no matter what they would give me a glowing reference or even help me find another job.

So do I remain professional in my attire tomorrow?, I will say I have a mortgage now and two young children and am looking for full time employment and thank them and wish them all the best.

Then what?

Should I sign up as a temp with the agency I tempted with for three years before, only now I can do full time, with a updated CV tomorrow.

I know that others are going through a bad time but we just took on a mortgage, and Im gutted as my Boss was lovely and I feel so bad I think they thought I could wave a magic wand and I could not.

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gordyslovesheep · 01/10/2013 21:40

I am so sorry :( do you have insurance on the mortgage? can you take a payment break?

Have you made any contacts via your job you can approach for work?

starfishmummy · 01/10/2013 21:47

Check out the ACAS site to make sure that they are following the correct procedure. Won't help you in the job market but at least you can make sure that you are getting everything you should.

pippitysqueakity · 01/10/2013 21:50

No practical advice, but so sorry this has happened.

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whowouldofthoughtyesme · 01/10/2013 21:51

Yes I am in linked in so will update it tomorrow, but aside from that yes we could Gordy.

I just feel I finally got a job that someone believed in me, and I told the dc's , I was really happy and my bubble has been burst .

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ImperialBlether · 01/10/2013 21:53

I'm so sorry, it must have been a terrible shock. Don't blame yourself - surely you weren't hired to rescue the company? What were their jobs if you were doing that? Try to stay positive and go to every agency you can - they have a vested interest in getting you work.

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whowouldofthoughtyesme · 01/10/2013 21:53

Thank you had a really bad month dp has been ill,and a lot worse so holding it all together right now, I wanted him to know he could rely on me what a fool I was.

They are being generous the company ,and I do not blame them I thought the grass was greener on the other side and it was not.

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ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 01/10/2013 21:55

It all sounds a bit strange though. You seem to be taking on a lot of the responsibility for the business failing - or rather, not improving and yet being made redundant has come as a shock to you.

How long have you been there?

Have they given it/you a fair chance to turn things around?

Why haven't they been communicating better with you?

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whowouldofthoughtyesme · 01/10/2013 21:57

I was hired to raise awareness for the company which I did and more, it just came to little to late.

I went from a bad thing to a good thing and it solved one problem but lead to another so they say one door closes another opens I truly hope so right now.

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ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 01/10/2013 21:57

Yes - list with your old agency and any others in your area. Try to get your head around it quickly and start looking for something else. Try not to let this dent your confidence.... stay positive.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 01/10/2013 21:59

How is your DP now? Is it a long term illness? Is he working?

'Too little, too late' is NOT your fault.

Yep - doors all over the place if you are looking for them and not expecting them to fling themselves open! :)

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whowouldofthoughtyesme · 01/10/2013 22:02

Chipping I have been there since the start of this year.

They did not have experience in the job I was taken on to do therefore
could not truly support me and when they realised that it was to late.

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whowouldofthoughtyesme · 01/10/2013 22:05

My Dp will be ok but it needs a lot of work on his part who's to say if it will lead to a long or short term illness waiting to find out, it could be very serious leaving me to two very young children alone.

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Chippednailvarnish · 01/10/2013 22:35

You're in a very similar situation to me, I left a job that I had been in for 6 months to move to a firm who really wanted me.
Then a year later they have made me redundant (so no redundancy pay) and I was in the first instant gutted. However as time has gone on and the hurt and shock has abaited, I am feeling much more positive.

I am still job hunting, but I can luckly afford to take some time to find the right thing. In my area Reed are the biggest recruitment website, I'd start with them...

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 01/10/2013 23:33

who :( Well, all you can do is be strong tomorrow. Don't 'apologise' simply say something along the lines of being sorry that they hadn't found you sooner and it being a shame they can't afford to give it longer in the hope that things would turn around, but that you understand etc. It is their fault, not yours, so allow them to shoulder the blame.

I hope things are OK with your DH and he makes a good recovery. I'll be thinking of him/you.

Lots of love & strength to get through this really hard time. Hopefully a door will open to a wonderful new job with lots of opportunities and a fit and healthy DH
x

nicelyneurotic · 02/10/2013 00:13

I have been there and it's horrible. Please don't blame yourself. Nearly everyone I know has been made redundant at some point over the last few years and it really is just business.

So don't take it personally. Smile. Sign up to agencies and start applying for jobs now.

Being made redundant five years ago was the best thing to happen to me. I couldn't see it at the time and felt very lost, but it worked out for the best. I'm sure a new, better, opportunity will come up for you.

AnandaTimeIn · 02/10/2013 00:33

Yea, fuck 'm. They did you one.

I know how it is, you are headhunted, give your best and then - wham!

Get back there onto the agencies....

Look forward, don't look back (unless they owe you moneywise!) ;-)

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whowouldofthoughtyesme · 02/10/2013 14:45

Thanks everyone I got through it this morning and survived .

I will look at Reeds, and will join the agencies and see how it goes thats all I can do really.

I contacted the old agency but they did not phone back so its there loss really.

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Chippednailvarnish · 02/10/2013 17:13

I'd also update your linkedin profile too. Glad today is over for you and to better things.

Caff2 · 02/10/2013 17:17

So sorry to hear this. I've just lost my job too and veer between positivity and utter panic, and regret I left the previous one for what seemed like a better prospect. I have six weeks to find another, which in my field will be incredibly tough. I really feel for you. Have some in solidarity.
We can do this!

jay55 · 02/10/2013 17:25

Check www.entitledto.co.uk/ and make sure you get all you can whilst looking for work.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 02/10/2013 20:55

Well done!

It might be your loss too though - you can't afford to be too fussy at the moment, so ring them back tomorrow!! :)

Sorry to hear that Caff :( It's a shit isn't it!

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