Out of bounds fridge

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My nephew lives with his father, his father's partner and her two children.
There are two fridges in the house. One for everyday items, milk, butter etc and one for treats (chocolate bars, cheesecakes, yoghurts, other yummy stuff) The treat fridge is out of bounds to my nephew, and the food there-in is only for the partner, her kids and my nephew's father.
AIBU to think this is TOTALLY out of order?? My nephews father is a total weed so goes along with the partner for an easy life, so please don't suggest he sorts it coz he wont!!!
I want to send my nephew a load of treats but have been told by his mother not to as it'll just cause more problems.
What do people think?

IMO this is awful and would set alarm bells ringing. Is your nephew treated differently in other ways?

I would lay money on the fridge being the least of this boy's troubles.

It is emotional abuse.

I have a cupboard and a drawer in the fridge that my two teenagers (18 & 16) are not allowed to take anything from. Ds3 (7) isn't allowed to help himself but the things in there are bought specifically for him. The reason being that if I buy a packet of biscuits, fancy cereal or multi pack of crisps they can polish them off in one night. The same goes for mini wraps, mini pita, small bottles of water, baby bel and other packed lunch things. I found I would go to get something for ds3 and there was nothing left.

It would be wise to check that this is not some similar arrangement but if it is exactly as he says it would be worth finding out if he is being excluded in other ways. Does he want to live there?

That's horrible :( I don't really know what to suggest but I feel so sorry for the poor boy.

I found I would go to get something for ds3 and there was nothing left

We have something similar in place when the DSCs are home from uni. Had to when I came home from work to find they'd eaten a cake that I'd had made and iced for a mate's birthday (FFS, is your name Emma, is it your 40th?). Make sure that it isn't a similar situation with your DN, teens can be gannets.

However, if it is one more thing in a series of your DN being treated like crap, you need to get him out of there.