to want to offer safety advice without being called over protective?

[peanutMD]

I have a friend on FB (playground mum) with a DD 2 weeks older than mine (7 months).

The past few months she's been putting things up about how she's dealing with her child and having been on here for 5 years now i know a some of it is actually quite dangerous so trying to be helpful i have commented with my opinion on why these things may not be advised.

i've been very careful not to seem preachy, patronising or forceful in doing so but was told by her and a few friends i need to "chill" and stop being so "over protective".

Do others try to offer helpful advice or just ignore the fact that someone is putting their childs health at risk?

I'm curious as to why you didn't private message her on FB - if she was at her wits end perhaps she would appreciated a little more discretion?

As she's just a Facebook friend, I'd stop offering advice. It's obviously not wanted.

Sorry - PeanutMD - I take your point :)

but people getting obsessive slagging off others' car seat choices do my tits right in.

Frankly I don't care about anyone's tits... kids necks moreso. It only takes a few moments googling to realise why car seat choices for small children are important.

was the first youtube I came across. I hope the OPs friend somehow gets clued up.

wiggles there were a large group of people commenting offering advice and experience some the same as mine, advising to see the HV so i didn't just start jumping on her parenting skills or anything like that. Car seat was PM.

Fakebook i commented because we often speak about our kids on there and sometimes she asks me for advice as do i from her.

I think you're probably just overthinking it - re the formula - some agreed with you, some didn't, and with the carseat it was only your friend you were "talking" to. She was happy enough with her decision, you don't agree with it - bit like MN.

Yanbu imo. You are just trying to help her so she does the best for her baby. It's really hard to sit back and say nothing if someone is putting their baby in danger because tgey are the sort of moron who cares more about the colour of a car seat than it's size. I wouldn't be able to.