To think this is an overreaction?

[CailinDana]

I'm from Irelandbut live in England and use facebook as a handy way to keep friends/family up to date with everything that's happening in my life. When dd was born seven months ago I rang close family but then let everyone else know through fb as with two zsmall children I just didn't have time to ring/text everyone.

A few days after dd was born a friend of mine from my schooldays texted to ask how I was doing and it was clear she didn't realise I'd given birth (she is on fb). I texted back saying she'd been born along with a photo of her. I got no reply so I asked if she was ok and she replied that she thought I'd text when dd was born. I apologised and said I had only called family. Again she went silent and I texted apologising again and saying I'd still like to be friends. She replied to say she wanted the same and she'd text during the week. That was 6 months ago and I haven't heard from her. I feel I've tried to repair things and it's up to her to say where we stand.

Aibu to think that ending a 15 year friendship over this is an overreaction? Should I contact her again or just leave it?

That's right ink, she has no children but would dearly love to have some.

Like I said, generally I think yanbu. But it takes seconds (at the most minutes) to send a group text. If you used lack of time as an excuse to not have sent a text, then I can see why she'd been a bit miffed. She is being dramatic now though. Your apology should've sufficed even if you did tell her you didn't have time to text.

Mountain out of a molehill on her part, and you apologised.

But I don't consider a facebook status to be the same as someone sending me a text - I have loads of people on my fb who hardly ever long on to it or post stuff.

In the days leading up to both my dc birth I just wrote a draft message on my phone and stuck in all the names of the people I wanted to tell when it happened.

She posts quite a lot mystic which was why I was surprised she hadn't seen it.

Maybe she's hidden you from her newsfeed

Seriously, though, I don't think you did anything wrong. Just was disagreeing that fb is the same as a text.

Apologies in advance for typos, typing this one handed. Saw your post yesterday cailíndana but didnt get the chance to reply. Am in a very similar position, also irish in the UK and have three DCs under 3 so find it very hard to stay in touch with pals, it is pretty much FB or nothing! I am also personally very laidback about baby announcements - either my own or others - in fact I am pretty sure DC3 had none whatsoever! However, what I would say to you is that it is very easy to underestimate how difficult it is for folk without kids to understand how all-encompassing life is with small ones, how you are left with no time and any time you have is earmarked for sleep etc. Couple this with an old friend who you say would love a partner and children looking at your life which contains both and sounds very happy....Must be hard for her. If you truly believe the friendship has run its course then you have the excuse to end it. If not, then consider reflecting on all you have and giving her one more try? Best of luck with whatever you decide x