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Such a jerk

7 replies

Neeliethere · 29/09/2013 00:59

My ox oh. Hardly had any time for our daughter when we were together. He is now well loved up with another woman. OK that is not my problem. But he now keeps organising things with my daughter, who he virtually ignores most of the time, to do with this new woman. Things like days out shopping, going to art galleries ffs. He has never in 15 years done anything like that with her. He never took her to the beach once when she was a kid. He didn't come on family holidays with us half the time because he didn't like all the other kids around us.

He is just so desperate to impress this new woman who has kids of her own. He is desperate to appear the doting dad to his own kid so she will think him wonderful and take the relationship on further and introduce him to her kids.

It is pathetic and totally unfair on my daughter. He's using her as a publicity tool. He's just spent nearly the whole week with this other woman barely contacting or speaking to his own daughter. God it makes my blood boil to see it. Of course, she's thrilled to bits that daddy is suddenly taking an interest in her. Grrrrrr

I am being unreasonable aren't I? I just need to vent. And breathe. Thanks.

OP posts:
FutTheShuckUp · 29/09/2013 01:02

Awful isn't it. And a right kick in the teeth when they couldn't be a good involved father for their own kids.

MummyBeerest · 29/09/2013 01:03

Nope, not unreasonable.

Your poor DD.

Be sure to have special quality time with her. That way when her dad fucks off, she knows that her mum is always there.

YouTheCat · 29/09/2013 01:05

What Mummy said. You know it won't last so just be there to pick up the inevitable pieces.

AgentZigzag · 29/09/2013 01:05

What a wanker Wine Cake

Has your DD talked to you about whether she's noticed?

FortyDoorsToNowhere · 29/09/2013 01:13

This i coming from someone who believes in father rights, cut contact.

your daughter is not a pawn, she is a real person with real feelings.

SamHamwidge · 29/09/2013 01:17

Sounds like my late father sigh could write a novel about it

Hugs OP, unfortunately this sort of behaviour is probably not that uncommon Sad some men are just bastards.

Donkeyok · 29/09/2013 03:47

No experience here so not sure if 40doors is right, but seems a little harsh. Would it be so bad for her to have a couple of good days with him even though he doesn't deserve it. Would be difficult knowing if good for dd or if she would get hurt? Sorry for you both.

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