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over possible amazing holiday or not? need opinions!

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doublechocchip · 28/09/2013 18:47

My best friend emigrated a few months ago down under with her husbands job. She's there for a minimum of 5 years and I miss her loads! We were skyping today and she was filling me on their travelling plans over Christmas and new year (they're travelling round a few countries before settling down to try and have children). My friends dh is doing a little of the travelling then one of my bf's friends is travelling over with her. Now her and husband have offered to pay for my flights to fricking Bali if I can possibly go in the January for 10 days! Then we would travel round the island to together.

I haven't spoken to dh yet as I have a milestone birthday occurring this week and I want to wait a couple of weeks to tell him as I know he has worked really hard to get me some lovely presents and don't want this to take the shine off them ifysim so I don't want to tell anyone else in real life yet for this reason.

I want to go so much! I still have annual leave to use up as does dh and we were going to take in January anyway to recover from Christmas when dc's were back at school (due to nature of job we aren't allowed to book leave over Christmas). So that would solve the issue of work and childcare. But is it too big an ask of dh, would I be totally selfish if I go?

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WhoNickedMyName · 28/09/2013 18:59

So you and your DH had agreed to have time off together in January?

And now you want to go to Bali without him for 10 days while he stays at home and looks after the children?

I'm kind of torn on this one. It's a fantastic opportunity for you but I can't help but feel that if I were your DH I'd be a bit pissed off.

PeppiNephrine · 28/09/2013 19:03

I'd go. DH would be pleased for me. And same the other way. Sure I might have a few moment of s'not fair about it, but you want each other to be happy, right?

OwlinaTree · 28/09/2013 19:05

Could you tell him now and discuss him having a holiday on his own too? There would be time before January for him to organise to go somewhere with friends maybe? Then he would be getting the chance of a similar experience. He might be a bit miffed otherwise if you are getting a holiday and he isn't.

WhoNickedMyName · 28/09/2013 19:05

Ah who am I kidding... not so much pissed off, more green with envy! Envy

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