to not want this baby shower

[excitedbutweary]

Really don't want to seem ungrateful but some friends have just announced they're planning a baby shower for me. Thing is, it seems quite a big production to them and I have so little time left between finishing work and due date that I could do without another event to accommodate. It's been organised by some SAHMs who are very sweet but seem to be looking for a project now kids are back at school. How can I tone it all down gently?

Surely if they are organising it for you it will only be one day that you need to be free for? Sorry I do think you are being a bit ungrateful as it's really nice that they want to do something like this for you. How much of your time will it really take up?

YANBU - just for the simple fact that baby showers are the work of the devil.

I think you need to be firm here and say that you are really touched, but that you would prefer to go out for a meal one evening/go for afternoon tea somewhere/whatever. Lovely that your friends care so much about you to want to meet up, but there are plenty of other ways you can get together without it having to be a baby shower.

If it's at someone else's house and being organised for you I would just go, otherwise you will risk offending people who are trying to do something nice for you.

oh god, baby shower. yanbu. wtaf is a baby shower for anyway?

Blimey tricky one that. They are only being kind I suppose, but baby showers aren't everyone's cup of tea. I'd hate it.

Could you invent an unforseen family committment?

You will just have to be very firm, thank them very much for the kind offer but explain that you really do not like baby showers. Is it your first baby? You could say that you are superstitious about that sort of thing I suppose.

Easier said than done, I know.

I would have loved a baby shower, not because I wanted gifts, but because it would have been a nice opportunity to get together with my friends have a chat and perhaps some tea and cake, I jade a very chilled out hen party which was afternoon tea followed by dinner and had a very enjoyable and relaxing time, I would go with the flow, sounds like you have very caring and giving friends and I don't ?

*jade = had

You might enjoy it & will no doubt get to put your feet up & eat tea & cake! I think they sound very sweet for organising it for you. Just go for a few hours.

I had a baby shower simply because my friends wanted to do one for me. They were really excited about it, so I just went along with it and all I had to do was turn up

I had a great time.