To think there is no benefit in this for dd

[benfoldsfive]

Briefly:

Dd is 10 our city held a "#@$$/$ got talent" show and she entered. She has got through to the final (600 entered and only 15 are in the final)

I'm really impressed with her as it's something that most would consider scary and she has neverbeen fazed.

The problem is she is in yr6 and the final had landed on the day she is due to leave on a residental. The class will leave Friday morning and the competition is Friday night. All her year group are going and I think it is a very important part of bonding ect.

She is obviously desperate to go to the final and I should rather she skipped it and went on the 3 daytrip. There is a possibly that she could join them saturday morning (haven't had cchance to speak to school) but if this isn't possible I think I'm going to put my foot down and make her go.

Am I being unreasonable to think there is no benifit in her performing in the final?

I do support the comp and add I said and very impressed with her. I think there are more benefits to the ressy than the show.

The ressy was booked and paid for in January. We discussed It loys Because It Was very expensive and dd was having lots of (typical girl) issues with her friends and i didn't want her to change mind at the last min; she was asked to make a commitment to it so in fact the talent show is the better offer.

Of course it's 'of benefit to DD' to sing in the final. I am amazed you could even think otherwise.

If the school doesn't agree to her going later, then if she were mine she wouldn't be going (well, I'd give her the option of which she wanted to do).

Let her go to the final. If that was me as a ten year old I'd resent you for not letting me go and it will probably upset her no end. She's done really well to get that far and it shows ambition and drive, don't ruin that for her.

And yes get her to the residential the next day .