I'm pregnant with our third (planned) dc and my oh seems to have had a personality transplant!! He is a great dad, very hands-on with our kids, so much so that friends comment on it. But since I have been pregnant this time I just feel really lonely and unsupported. When I was approx 28 weeks I was advised at mw check to go straight to hospital with suspected preterm labour. I phoned to tell him and he said he was busy at work but to give him a call once they had triaged me and he would see if he could get away. So I had to arrange childcare for my other 2 (which involved driving them 15 mins away) and drive myself to hospital. When I got there ivwas under the impression someone at work had told him off and sent him because he turned up not long after me.
We had a chat at the time, he apologised for putting work first and I thought we were ok.
Now 38 weeks I told him yesterday first thing I didn't feel right, had 3 hours of strong but irregular contractions home alone with our dc. They were starting to come every 6 mins so I phoned him at work and asked him to come home. He commutes 45 mins to work, hospital is 25 mins from here, my last labour was only just over an hour so I was starting to worry. He told me he would have to work another hour as he couldn't let his boss down, he'd been up all night with a cough and was tired!!!
When he did eventually get home I'd fed kids, bathed them and got them in bed, got family over to babysit and we left for hospital I lost it a bit and told him to get his priorities straight. He told me to 'fuck off-you haven't had the baby so I was right not to come'. Then we sat in silence for the rest of the journey. Not surprised my contractions disappeared after all the stress but I am in early labour. Considering leaving him at home and taking my mum but it is his baby too and he says he wants to be there. - aibu? Sorry for essay.