back in April, OH and I booked a short trip away away, just the two of us for two nights and three days in October. The idea of the trip was something to look forward to and some quality time just the two of us after a rocky 18 months or so.
The trip was booked for midweek when DD would mostly be in nursery And MIL was going to be looking after her, with a little help from my DGM.
Anyway during the summer, MIL had a healthscare and next week is starting a three week course of treatment which means she will be unable to have DD. My own DM is on holiday and I feel nights and trips to and from nursery is too much to ask my DGM to do by herself.
That only really leaves my DSis to ask to have DD for one night and take her to nursery the next day and then pick her up. I didn't want to ask her as she works full time and is a single parent. she struggles already in the morning as her DD is very hard to get out of bed, traffic is really bad in her town because of massive roadworks and she has to go through them twice to get DD to school and then get to work.
As predicted, when I broached the subject with her, she said although she would love to help us, this would finish her off, and she really can't.
OH is annoyed as he says we would help her and he would have hoped she would do something to help us even if it meant inconveniencing herself for a day or so.
I think it's not like its an emergency when of course people would do what they needed to do to help. we are asking people to put themselves out and go to great trouble so we can go on holiday and it doesn't feel right.
Who is right?