to think younger siblings should be taken out if they are too loud?

[FriendlyLadybird]

Went to DD's (Y1) 'sharing assembly' today. The back row was entirely filled by mothers with younger children and babies. These children proceeded to make the most tremendous racket throughout the assembly, to the extent that I actually couldn't hear anything of what was going on. DH went last week and had the same experience.

Now, I know that the mothers want to be there to support their school age children, and it's nice for the younger siblings to be there, and in any case there may be no alternative care in place ... BUT could the mothers not have taken the children outside when they got too noisy? We used to take DD to her brother's events. Mostly she was pretty quiet but, when she wasn't, we took her outside. Yes, I did miss quite a lot of half assemblies and plays, but DS knew that I had been there, understood about his sister, and really didn't mind. It was the fact that we had turned up at all that was important to him.

Am I being an old grouch?

YANBU. Our head is very hot on this and gives parents with small children The Look just to hammer it home. It's annoying to have to take them out of course but mostly it's not fair on the children who've worked hard for their performance or assembly.

I did take DS2 out

They get frogmarched out by the Head

I love your head Floggingmolly

a rota of parents to run a crèche, would need them all crb checked though - our school does one staffed by TAs and dinner ladies

YADNBU.

YANBU. This drives me mad.

Our school does adult only performances too.

It is so unfair on the performing kids to have screaming toddlers in the audience. Some parents just sadly don't give a shit though.

Floggingmolly I think our children must be at school together! I think it is a good idea, I don't take time off work to listen to other people's children scream. I do want to listen to DS and his school friends.

My childrens school have a no infants rule for school assemblies , during the nativity they send everyone a letter home reminding parents.

Our school does a performance that toddlers are allowed in and a later one when they are banned. People still bring them to the later one.

The HT is quite good about standing up and demanding that constantly noisy children are removed. DH was shocked the first time she thundered "remove that child"

when my dds were in primary when there was church services or anything in school you were asked politely to take nosiy children out which i thought fair enough I did have to miss some things when dd2 was a baby/ toddler as I either didnt go or had to take her out, it isn't fair on other parents o r the school children to have babies squawking away

This is another thing to be grateful for when your DC gets to secondary school - we haven't been invited to any assemblies/plays/performances at all .
Never forget one horrendous year when during the Nativity Play a younger sibling was shouting loudly 'I need a poo' over and over again whilst his mother just simpered and looked on indulgently. .

Yabu Tbh I wonder why some of you bother having children-you clearly don't like them very much. Our school sends letters home before assemblies asking that younger siblings don't attend-I blithely ignore them! I don't have any other child care and am not prepared to miss out on seeing my dcs perform.

Obviously if my dcs were making a right racket then I would take them out/murder them but again have never been to an assembly that has been spoiled by children's noises-its more likely the sound of the parents chatting that drowns out the kids!

My ds' school plays always say this:

'Welcome to our play. Please turn off your phones and noisy babies'

I doubt you will find anyone who disagrees that one should take babies/toddlers out if they are too loud.

But you may find very different opinions on what "too loud" actually is.

It's made very clear at my dcs school that noisy siblings must be taken out. If a child is loud and the parent doesn't leave the headteacher has a quick word in their ear.

My OH calls me an old grump but I agree...I missed my sons entire monologue at a Church event due to a kid of about 3 banging bibles together loudly throughout. Really made me cross.

Plays are one thing, stupid boring sharing assemblies are quite another.

As far as possible younger siblings should come to dress rehersals and leave if disruptive.

Noise in weekly sharing assemblies just breaks up the tedium.

Did anyone else read the title and think "take them out" - Arnie-style?
yes me high five, fellow sicko!

This is another thing to be grateful for when your DC gets to secondary school - we haven't been invited to any assemblies/plays/performances at all

Clearly you don't have a DD who sings in too different choirs, but after a couple of years of DH and I taking turns, DD2 is now old enough to leave at home (She doesn't do classical music). Actually there's usually show tunes, jazz and even rock and drama bits sometimes so they are quite fun.

I am in high school a few times a year for things I like it as you dont really have much knowledge of whats going on , dds were are involved with the school show it is always a musical and usualy a good night out ,

Star - no, I don't have a musical child, his interest is sport and fortunately it's quite difficult to drown out a rugby game .

I would love to go to a school musical, but it's hard to find out about such events at the school our DS attends, despite studying the website regularly; I only found out about the Carol Service by seeing it in the local newspaper - and was one of very few parents there.

YADNU this drives me mad too. If your child is being noisy and disturbing people you "take them out". Only exception I can think of is if you are on a plane. At assemblies/school plays I find the toddlers whose mums think they should have their own seat (when there are loads of adults standing) generally aren't taken out when they are screaming.