I have two young children, dd 8 and ds 6. They are both loveable, bright, well mannered get on with people (some more than others like everyone else). Something that bothers me though is the attitudes from other adults of gender stereotypes related to both of them. Dd is very tomboyish, chooses boys clothes/characters, plays with toy trucks, also likes girly dresses depending on occassion and mood, goes to brownies, plays netball and football. Ds plays rough with other boys, likes a mixture of (supposedly) boy and girls fashions, adores pink, goes to dancing, plays rugby, I could go on all day but you get the jist. As parents we don't believe in suppressing 'gender inappropriate' behaviour in this day and age and are proud of our dc for being themselves and not caring what tradition dictates. The problem is parents of other children being so negative about them, though this doesn't seem to transfer to their own dc as mine are so adorable in their own ways they can just blend in.
I do draw the line at letting ds wear skirts in public or to school, but aibu to stand my ground in letting children be what they want, within certain boundaries.