I have posted in Relationships in the past about a friend who used to be one if not my 'best friend' and who I think has not made as much effort for some time- years. I've detached myself a bit lately because I felt I was being reliable and she wasn't. It's worth pointing out that I have far more responsibilities than she has or had- she has no kids, no job whereas I have both.
She called me 2 days ago- 2 hours after my DH's mum had died rather suddenly. My friend and DH were quite close so she was shocked.
She promised to call later- meaning I assumed when she got home an hour later off the train.
She didn't. She didn't call that day at all but did call late last night. We didn't pick up- it had been a long and tiring day trying to do all the arranging of the funeral ( all left to DH) and we were having a quiet time for an hour. She left a message saying she thought we must be away now and would catch me whenever.....I felt that she was putting the ball in my court.
In isolation this doesn't seem much but it's just another example of her being what I'd think was thoughtless. I won't go into detail but I know what's going on in her life and there would've been nothing to have kept her away from phoning for 36 hours. But am I over-reacting?