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AIBU?

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To think they are absolutely bastards?

17 replies

Fifi2406 · 25/09/2013 18:56

My friends all with kids and I have one DC only ever do stuff in couples! Never ever ever do they organise something where their partners don't go a long....I have arranged a girls night for my birthday in the past and still they all brought partners along? So I don't bother now! Well today Karen (not real name) let it slip that there was a night out for Janes (not a real name) birthday was I going I said I haven't even heard anything...she then replied "oh its probably couples only you wouldn't wanna come anyway" and I literally just looked after Janes DC for 6 hours whilst she had her hair done for this couples only night out she didn't tell me she was getting her hair done I just found out from big gob Karen... I am furious and so miffed that I didn't even get the option to decide for myself if I didn't want to go or not! I probably wouldn't have gone or if i did go not enjoy it fully because i'm a bit of a spare part on these nights out as they are all joined to the hip of their partners, Don't know if this is just normal for a singleton to get overlooked just feel so miffed!! Am I being unreasonable to want to poke every single one of them in the eye?! Grin

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SPBisResisting · 25/09/2013 18:58

YANBU that is mean. Why are you friends with these peope

PeppermintPasty · 25/09/2013 18:59

Shock You need some new friends. Seriously, not normal, they sound bloody awful.

Poke away!

shoofly · 25/09/2013 18:59

Yanbu Find new friends.

ILetHimKeep20Quid · 25/09/2013 19:00

Yanbu they are horrid.

CoffeeTea103 · 25/09/2013 19:02

It was horrible for her to do that. Do you think that you push your single nights out too much on them when they actually do enjoy doing things as couples?

FetchezLaVache · 25/09/2013 19:09

YANBU. Time for new friends!

MoominsYonisAreScary · 25/09/2013 19:13

Yanbu find some nice friends

BrokenSunglasses · 25/09/2013 19:17

Erm, people in couples can make good friends too!

This woman wasn't very nice in the way she told you about this night out, but if you are making it clear to them that you don't really like couples night out, which certainly comes across in your OP, then why would they invite you when they are going out as couples?

Some people like spending their free time with their husbands and partners, and that's a good thing.

Having been a single parent though, I would say you need to find yourself some single women to go out with.

CakeBotherer · 25/09/2013 19:21

Maybe she had recently seen Bridget Jones'diary and didn't want to inflict any twatishness on you

Fifi2406 · 25/09/2013 19:28

Coffee - I arranged one girlie night as it was my birthday I got to chose

Broken - we always do stuff together all their partners are my friends to! have never said anything to anyone about feeling a spare part I keep quiet I'm upset that I've been made to feel like i've not been invited because I'm single and its only couples allowed so i cant be invited! And these are my "good" friends that's all nothing against couples!

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ShakeRattleNRoll · 25/09/2013 19:32

You deserve better than that Fifi ,find some real friends that care about you.Do what YOU need to do.

RandomMess · 25/09/2013 19:34

I don't understand their mentality - I have single friends, sometimes we do things as the "girls" sometimes they come over and spend time with me and dh.

They are being mean!!!

TootsFroots · 25/09/2013 19:40

Yes, you need to get poking. Angry

I would be pissed off too. I think you should mention it to your bit crappy friends. Not in a ragey angry way but just to let them know that you feel a bit left out and would like to be included. If they are your friends they will understand.

I would also try and find some more, nicer, friends.

stowsettler · 25/09/2013 19:43

Horrible people, YANBU. Also - how fucking sad are they that they're unable to have a good night out without their OHs? I'd imagine they can get incredibly boring.

You're better off without. Wink

elcranko · 25/09/2013 19:47

YANBU, I think that they should have invited you so you could have decided for yourself whether you wanted to go or not.

foslady · 25/09/2013 19:51

YANBU - this gets me mad too!!!!

josephinebruce · 25/09/2013 20:58

Me too! Can't stand those sort of people. Even when I was married we had time apart now and again.

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