To go on holiday without your kids is good for you

[lestagal78]

I mean time to reconnect with you are, to miss your children and appreciate them even more when you get home.

DH and me have the opportunity to do holidays away from each other and the family next year. We're happy for us to do it so why do some of the older generation frown on us for doing it.

They are safely with a parent, they are not babies. In fact when I go away they will hardly notice I'm gone as they will be at school. Its not like I do it all the time, I can't remember the last time I had a proper day and night without children.

So AIBU.

Yanbu but I've never managed to do it. Dh does though.

I guess in theory we could go away together but tbh I'm not sure what I'd come back to leaving inlaws or my parents holding the fort.

My parents would be overly stressed by the whole thing and I'd feel guilty. Mil would probably decide to do something 'helpful' which wouldn't be.

My husband and I got married abroad. We went away with just a large group of friends. No family came due to never flying or it really not being their thing. It honestly was ok, no on was offended and both sets of grand kids looked after our kids. We had the most fantastic week ever (bar one day when husband and his friends behaved like The Inbetweeners in their mid 30s...)

We missed our kids but it was so good for us and them. yADNBU

we go on holidays with our 3dds. they go 2/3 week long holidays a year with my parents so both dh and myself don't feel like they are missing out.

there off tomorrow for 8 night's in spain while we have until june until we go on holiday

YANBU. DP and I usually manage a couple of weekends together every year, as well as also getting a couple of weekends each as well.

We'll be heading off on honeymoon in the next few weeks, probably for a week. DD will have a lovely time with grandparents and other family.

YANBU, though I wouldn't leave a newborn or do it at the expense of a family holiday.

In the last 6 years, I have had two 5-day holidays abroad without DH and the children. I had a blast both times and it did me the world of good. I was able to be me again, do what I wanted for a few days, recharge the batteries a bit. Even going to the loo without three people hammering on the door asking to come in was a novelty! Enjoy it, I say!

Ignore the "it wouldn't happen in my day comments" - Enid Blyton etc is full of parents going on holiday without their DCs, who are left with relatives they hardly know!

Omg. Yanbu. At all.

Dp and I have 4 dc between us ranging from 5 to 16. Our recent family hol was 3 weeks in the algarve. The 5yr old kept bursting in on the 13yr old and her best friend, which they got very cross with very quickly. The 16yr old was supposedly with another family who have a villa nearby, turns out he and their 16yr old (plus 2 other randoms) went to a local nightclub and came back rat arsed beyond belief. The 13yr old was smuggling wine out of the cooler. The 5yr old with his first proper iPad used only the camera function and drive us all mad popping up like a teeny paparazzi everywhere. Loos included. The 13yr old lost one of her "especially for holiday" French manicured false nails. The world stopped. Three weeks of this.

We returned, knackered, and now the little daaaaaarlings are all back at school, we're booking one just for us for a few weeks time. Family hols can be great. But leaving them behind can be just as rewarding ;)

long as you take your children on ahoilday at some point, ynbu. every one needs a hoiliday and you can benifit so much from that break, you come back recharged ready to take any thing on.

how ever, if like a person i know, who has been on hoildays.. out of the uk 6 times and has never taken her 7 year old on hoilday once, not even to a caravan. it is wrong.