To not put oil/butter in my ds's food to try to fatten him up?

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Ds is 9 months old, I went to get him weighed today (he has a very small/almost closed soft spot from very young so I have to have his head measuered every month and they weigh/measure him at the same time)

He has gained about 0.1kg in the last 6 weeks.

The nurse was worried about him not following his curve, he was 4.5 kg (10 pounds) at birth and on the 98th centile, now he is 10 kg and on the 50th centile. he looks chubby, he has a little buddah belly and chubby legs. He was 55cm at birth which was also on the 98th centile but now he is only 72cm which is around the 50th centile. me and dp are very average in height so it is no supprise to me that he is average height.

The nurse asked me about feeding, ds eats dinner and lunch, he eats parridge with fruit for breakfast and I breastfeed him lots throughout the day.

She said he was probably not gaining weight because of me still breastfeeding him and if I wanted to continue breastfeeding him I should add oil/butter to his meals to give him extra calories.

Ds moves all the time, he is not stop crawling, pulling himself up and cruising around the furniture, he has been like this since he was 6 months old.

I feel like adding extra calories with no nutritional value to his diet is a bad idea.

AIBU to ignore her? His head measurment was fine but not the nurse wants to see us next month to watch his weight.

Me and my dp are very average in terms of height. The reason I am reluctant to give ds extra calories is because I don't want him to become used to eating all of his food with extra oil.

His weight and height are now in proportion and my feeling is that is I give him extra oil he will just put weight on so his weight and height are out of proportion.

Blended roast dinners taste exactly like a roast dinner when you chew it in your mouth. I think it's a little rude to say it's disgusting. We started with blw but the mess was too much, we are out of the house for every lunch time, ds refuses to wear a bib and hates having his clothes changed so the hassle of blw was not worth it for us.

OP My DS2 was a 10lber,
And he lost weight like lots of babies do and we were admitted to hospital when he was 5 days old. Basically because my milk wasn't in. I tried for a further week and still nothing.
It put the wind up me and I fretted about his weight at every weigh in. My 7.9lber DS1 put loads of weight on, DS2 didn't.

Now he is 4 y o and he is on the 12th centile for height and 15th for weight. People are astonished when I say he was a 10lber. He eats like a horse. He was obviously just not meant to be big.

When he was a baby I added butter to things like potato, scrambled eggs and gave (still do) full day dairy products. They need the fat.

Your DS will find his own steady weight. And it is nothing to worry about.

If your child is genuinely below the bottom percentile, you need a referral to an endo STAT! That's a serious growth hormone or other metabolic issue which needs investigation. Anything under the 3rd percentile needs investigation.