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New neighbour woes

12 replies

JessKM · 24/09/2013 18:51

We've moved to another part of the country as ds is getting care at the hospital here, and as a result have had to uproot our family and move hundreds of miles...so there is a chance I'm feeling sorry for myself...HOWEVER

We're renting a distinctly average house in an average estate, but I think our neighbour is taking the p*. He and his wretched children are awake til all hours, Sunday they were barbecuing until 3am on the driveway...they have a garden ffs. Whilst unable to sleep we overhear them saying they need to find firewood, wake up next morning...OUR GATE IS GONE!!

Our wheelie bin is missing, they seem to have two...

These are things we will have to replace, which is money we don't have lying around, and it's just plain wrong.

However, I don't want to confront them, as they aren't the most desirable of folk and I really don't want to make life any harder! What to do??

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WorraLiberty · 24/09/2013 18:55

You need to speak to them in a non confrontational way imo.

Ask them nicely if they know where your gate and wheelie bin went. Even though they'll deny all knowledge, at least they'll know you're onto them. They'll probably see you as less of a pushover if you speak to them directly.

As for the noise until 3am, you'd have to speak to the council or ring 101 if you witness any unsociable behaviour.

catgirl1976 · 24/09/2013 19:06

YANBU at all

Speak to them calmly and politely and if that gets you nowhere start logging the issues and report

SoleSource · 24/09/2013 19:15

Could be that your neighbours know the house is rented and the thieving scumbags shrug their shoulders and think oh well the current tenants won't have to replace the stuff.

Why would you need to replace those items anyway if you're renting, is this written in your contract you are responsible for exterior fixtures and movable items such as wheelie bins?

AgathaF · 24/09/2013 19:37

I think I would find somewhere else to rent. Some things are just not going to improve. I think this is one of them.

Chottie · 24/09/2013 19:51

I agree with AgathaF

Unexpected · 24/09/2013 19:52

How long do you anticipate being in this house?

anon2013 · 24/09/2013 19:52

I'd also keep a log of all events such as the 3am bbq, gate missing etc. Collect evidence.

GoEasyPudding · 24/09/2013 19:54

If this were me I would be looking for somewhere new to rent and giving notice on this current house. Taking a gate for firewood? Crazy alert! Get the heck out of there!

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JessKM · 24/09/2013 20:10

I know I should be running a mile, but with all the stress weve had of moving up here I dont think I could handle another move, plus Ive just managed to secure places for my two oldest girls at the local school, and am waiting for an appeal on the youngest, because we have "moved to the area" and if we moved out I might lose that option..
but we are going to be here a minimum of 3 months whilst he undergoes treatment, possible longer...
I would probably speak to them if DH were here, but he is still trying to maintain a job down in London and comes up here on days off, so I have reverted back to teenage girl style, and seem unable to say boo to a very northern goose!

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Vivacia · 24/09/2013 20:17

I couldn't live like this, sounds awful, and would look for another rented property even with the further upheaval.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 24/09/2013 20:17

I'd seriously consider moving, too.

If you are renting, is the missing gate your responsibility to replace?

Agree with others who say keep a log of everything.

IamSlave · 24/09/2013 20:40

I must also say after years of problems, you should move.

YES its a pain to up root but on the other hand, are your neighbours suddenly going to become more normal?

No,

So your home will become a place of worry and stress, not a havan but a place where you dread coming back too.

You will start to become on edge wondering what they will do next and you will spend your life worrying about them, and then moaning about them.

What can you do? If they are council tennants you could complain, but they will know its you, they have taken your gate and they dont even dislike you yet.

If they are not council you could complain to council, THEY will be told your doing a noise diary, they can be quiet whilst you do that, then council will say there is no noise....

You could go to police for criminal damage, they will know its you and plague you further. And if you own your house, complaining to the council about them, means you will have to declare this if you move.

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