To be uncomfortable about this

[fairy1303]

We have a big green opposite our house (you can see it from the window).

I have just started letting DSd (8) play out there where I can see her for short periods of time.

There is a slightly older girl who lives I'm our street. Today we dropped by to see if she wanted to play. Mum said playing on green was fine.

I let them go where I can see them. They have now called for another, much younger girl. I have asked if her parents know where she is. She is apparently allowed to 'play out' regularly. I asked if her dad knows what number we are- he doesn't and is in the bath.

So I am now accidentally responsible for 3 children. I was going to ask friend to come in with DSD while she ate tea but don't want to have child 3 in house when dad doesn't know where she is.

Probably completely unreasonable but I'm out of my comfort zone!

Get the older girl to take the younger one home.

Send the littlest home.

Phew. Thought you might all say what a neurotic Molly coddling parent I was. Have just tried to knock on door of child 3 - no answer. I have decided to let them play outside until tea time then will walk child 3 home myself.

I often end up with loads of random kids in my house. I've had many a frantic parent knocking to see if their child was there Once the parents all get to know each other, it sorts itself out. A cheap mobile phone (PAYG) in order to keep in touch is a good idea too.

Hidden - you are a braver woman than me! I'm more of an organised play date type myself.

I also don't want her having a phone just yet I don't think.

How old is child number 3?

If she's allowed to play out regularly, why do you consider yourself responsible for her?

Imo all children who are allowed out without parents, should have a cheap PAYG phone.

Even if you don't want to make it hers, call it a family phone and keep it in the cupboard until she needs to take it out.

Only store yours and other family members numbers in it.

About 6 I think.

Because child 2 is actively at our house to play, mum has gone out etc. if DSD comes in child 2 will come with her. Child 3 is just playing with them.

Maybe I shouldn't feel responsible but I do. Like I said, the concept of 'playing out' is new for us.

She plays literally where I can see her directl outside the window. I wouldn't let her go any further.

It is a bit nerve wracking at first, but once you get into a routine and get to know the other children, it does get easier. Honestly, a mobile is a must if they play out. Just get a simple one like a cheap Nokia - very easy to use. Just stick £10 on it and you're set. Attach it to them by putting it in a small camera case with a strap that you can fix to trousers or a jacket.