To think this woman is very strange?

[midori1999]

There's a Mum I sometimes speak to at my son's school. When I first met her she mentioned how her previous neighbours had bullied her, keyed her car etc and it had all been a nightmare. Then after a while she started a job and started telling me how her manager was bullying her. Then a while later her next door neighbour was bullying her and the neighbours dogs were barking all hours but when she tried to talk to her about it she wouldn't answer the door.

The next thing was that the Mums at the gates of the school next door to our sons' school (both our sons have SN) were 'taking the piss' out of her son as she walked past.

I haven't seen her for a while as we've missed each other on school runs. There sent many Mums that drop off/pick up at our sons' school as most go on buses/taxi's etc. however, one of the Mums that would previously chat to me now ignores me (I've tried saying Hello) and another, newer Mum is chatty with this first Mum and has avoided eye contact/saying hello to me. I can't help wondering if this first Mum has said something to them about me...

Anyway, this morning first Mum has told me that her other neighbours are bullying her and that her rabbits have both died suddenly this weekend, which she finds odd. She seemed to be strongly implying the neighbour had something to do with it. As we are all forces families I suggested she go through official channels to get the matter with the neighbours resolved and she said she didn't have time to ring them and just wanted to punch her neighbour.

AIBU to find this woman unnerving and try to avoid her in future? It all just seems a bit far fetched...

People talk about you behind your back the way they talk about others to you so she's probably telling the other mothers about you murdering her rabbits or something similar, hence their reaction to you.

She sounds deranged. I'd want to know what she was saying about me so that the next time she turns up I'd publicly challenge her on it. If you could get a few people she's lying about together to call her up on it.... everyone will know what she's like by Christmas...

I'd report her to social services in the hope they could help her with her mental health issues and let the cops know she's paranoid so when she turns up to them with false allegations they are aware of her problems with reality.

People like this can be very dangerous to other peoples reputations, she's already accusing her neighbours of killing pets, next she could be falsely alleging child abuse or worse against them. The authorities need to know because this type of behaviour often escalates.

Tbf though, I've actually found that there are some people out there that just seem to attract bullies. So it wouldn't be unbelievable for me if somebody really had being bullied in several work places, etc though generally not to the extreme this woman is implying.

She does sound a bit nutty.

I think thats a fair point blueshirtbluetie.The woman I know I just dont understand at all.I think some people like perhaps in the OPs case really need drama or chaos around them and weirdly make believe what theyre saying is true.God im dreading the playground!

I had a neighbour like this. She caused all sorts of problems for me, the school, the play groups - on and on. I believe she was really unbalanced or mentally ill. Avoid her at all costs, it will only cause you mucho trouble.

zatyaballerina it's a bit harsh to go bothering social services about isn't it? There's got to be loads of people like that around, it doesn't mean they're off their rocker, just emotionally immature. I doubt she'd run off to coppers for help as I reckon deep down she knows she's being really unreasonable and she'd look a prat when she got found out. She's not directly accused anyone of killing her rabbits and you don't have to be barmy to start making false claims of child abuse so there's no need to link the two.

As for 'this type of behaviour often escalates' how do you know that? Sure, they can become inventive for want of more attention, but I've not heard of anyone like this actually taking matters further and involving the police or social services. They tend to just wallow in their own pity when the friends run out and cling on to the newest neighbour for a bit.