AIBU to say something to BIL or stay out of it

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DP and BIL have fallen out big time. however since then my ds (who loves his BIL) has been blatantly snubbed twice since. first time ds ran up to BIL who side stepped around him. ds didn't think anything of it. this evening ds shouted at him across a field waving at him, I was watchin out the window, BIL saw ds but ignored him.

Ds was all sad face and said his uncle doesn't like him. I just told him he was tired and probably in a bad mood.

but aibu to text and say fair enough you and dp have fallen out but there is no need to involve the kids and snub them as well. ds is 5. it made me so mad.

Stay out of it. Just tell your son that bil and daddy have fallen out and they will be friends soon

maybe so maddy. I don't want to get involved though was snubbed by him myself since and wife was very frosty with me. I have no involvement in it whatsoever. but when ds is snubbed too it really made me angry.

Tbh, I would probably say something to DP and tell him to grow up and make up with his DB. POint out that it is affecting his DS.

well I wont be doin that. I 100% agree with dp. its his BIL that needs to grow up.

Well even if bil is in the wrong if one of them doesnt offer an olive branch then this wont blow over and things could be very frosty for a while

I would stay out of it. If someone doesn't realize it's wrong to get the kids involved then nothing you can say will change his mind. If anything it will just cause more of an issue. His loss.

Well he and his wife obviously agree 100% and think your dp should grow up.

That text is not going to help any.

I don't think you should say anything.

I can understand why you want to, but he's obviously not mature enough to not take it out on other people it doesn't involve so explaining that to him wont help. In fact, it'll probably add to his 'brother and sister in law are wrong' outlook.

Just tell your son that his Dad and uncle have fallen out and he's being childish and not willing to talk. It's the honest truth and at least your DS knows.

Otherwise, it's just hurtful, isn't it? He can't be tired and grumpy all the time when he does it in the future although he may well be like that in real life.

Is it dp's brother?
Why have they fallen out?
& do you all live really close to bump into each other frequently, sounds a crappy situation all round

Poor ds

AintNobodyGotTimeFurThat
Just tell your son that his Dad and uncle have fallen out and he's being childish and not willing to talk. It's the honest truth and at least your DS knows.

That's exactly what I would do and have done in similar situations. I would also reassure your son that it is nothing that he has done.