Friend who rented near me when she left her dh and 3dc ( I did the school run for her everyday as she was at work) has now bought a house close to where her dh and dc live. Her dc did not want to live with her and privately her 10 yo ds told my dd that she was only a nice mum when it suited her and was never there for them.
Friend now has lot everything, her beautiful house, horses, dogs,through her divorce, also respect of her children which she is slowly winning back (I told her if she wanted to build bridges it would be a good idea for her to at least live in the same town as them!)
I spent hours with her over the year, and have always been there for her. But now she has moved away I realise actually it took a huge emotional toll on me and I am now avoiding her, she has wanted to come over and I genuinely have been otherwise engaged, but I have not suggested alternative times.
Everyone including her mother, my dh, a mutual friend who was also her boss told me she is utterly selfish, but I have alway cared for her and wanted to see the good side to her.
But now I know she regrets her decision to leave and not go to counselling with her dh as I tried to persuade her to. Her ds had to be pulled out of an excellent primary to go to one under special measures in the next town because that was the only one with any spaces left.
I don't feel I can do anymore to help her but am feeling guilty mainly because I really cared for her ds after 7 years of looking after him. She has moved to a rough area because her dh did not care which primary he went to and they wanted him to be able to walk to school. Her others to independent school (they were wealthy but lawyer taken a huge chunk so not enough left over for this ds).
Schools under special measures with the worst GCSEs in the county can be a good place to send your child as a lot of extra resources are going into it, is that true? Should I stop feeling bad and return her call for support as I have always done?