to think DH should try not to return from weekend away in a stinking temper?

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I had bloody knackering weekend with DC, but enjoyed the fact that he could go away and have fun with friends for 4 nights. But then he gets back hung over, grumpy and unhelpful. Grrr.
AIBU to think he should have made the most of his lie-ins and come back in a better state?

YANBU.

Have you told him to stop being an arse?

Sort of, Molly, but made it worse...
Ah well.

Would anything other than 'oh dear, you poor thing. Here let me mop your brow' have made him happy?

I think that is taking the piss to take his hangover out on you when he's had 4 days away to relax.

He shouldn't take it out on you, but if you're feeling rough, generally all sense of rationality goes out of the window. I'm currently in bed with flu - off work for a week and I know I've been irrational and have snapped at DP a few times. I have apologised though and he knows it's just because I'm sick and have a fever and am bored of staying in bed - although I can't physically do anything else!

Hopefully he feels better this morning.

Living, your grumpiness wasn't self inflicted though. Hope you feel better soon.

Thank you all. You've made me feel less U .

It's one hell of a hangover (still looking ROUGH this morning!), and I do feel sympathetic (and grateful he saves the getting drunk mainly for when he's away), but it's a bit disheartening after thinking he'd had the chance for a nice relaxing time away. I shall ignore from the haven of work.

My DH travels a lot, some for work, some with his friends. When he gets back, especially if he's been gone over the weekend, he is Mr Perfect Husband and Daddy, loads of attention for the kids, I get a break, etc etc. it's all about give & take, if he's going to take 4 days then he'd darn well better be cheerful and happy to see us on return! Has he bothered to consider you at all?

I'm with sneepy, even if my husband feels like shit after a night out he puts on his happy face and gets on with making the most of the time left with the kids before he goes back to work. Then he falls asleep on the sofa.