AIBU to keep my toddler away from an aggressive dog?

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The PIL have a small dog. when dd was 18months i took my eye if the ball for a moment and she managed to corner the dog and it bit her on the hand. There was no blood, i think it was just a warning snap. The dog is old and a bit grumpy. The PIL came to stay this weekend and bought the dog. I asked everyone to keep them apart. This afternoon I looked up to see DP next to dd and the dog, she was giving the dog a cuddle with one arm round it's neck. I told her to get away from the dog and snapped at dp about not letting her touch it. So talking about it tonight dp says he can tell if the dog is in a good mood (he has lived with it) or not and can make sure dd is safe. I think the dog is unpredictable and should be kept away. What do you think AIBU?

I do not mind other dogs just this one.

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YANBU

Your DD has to be your first priority. I wouldn't have the dog in my house to be honest.

Wmittens
when I said 'unpredictable' I mean that my the dog is not always snappy and will approach us for a tummy rub etc sometimes.
she's happy to be petted sometimes she's not and I don't feel it's a good idea to guess when she is up for some attention and when shed rather be left alone because this may change quickly, hence unpredictable.

The dog has already bitten your DD.

If it were me it wouldn't be allowed in my house again- however you are clearly much more tolerant .

I think your suggestion to keep the dog and DD separate is entirely sensible. This is for the benefit of both DD and the dog- the dog clearly doesn't want to be poked and prodded by a small child , and DD doesn't know how to 'read' the dog and is at risk from it.

Other dogs who joyfully carried toddlers around and adored being mithered by small children are irrelevant - this dog clearly doesn't like it, and needs the adults to respect its needs by keeping small children away.

Twerking YANBU. I agree with inertia that you are being quite tolerant actually.
Will your DP listen to your POV? Or do you think you'll have a battle on your hands?

Have you posted before op? I remember a"PIL dog" aibu around Christmas. If not you, maybe you remember the thread. It might be worth looking up because there were some helpful pointers on handling the situation.

How old is DD? I have a very non-aggressive little dog who never reacts even on the 2 occasions another 2 grumpy/unpredictable dogs were aggressive.
But she is wary/scared of an over-excited 3 year-old who squeals, jumps up and down near her and pats instead of strokes her back.
She just backs away.
I wouldn't trust her if the little girl persued her, not to growl or even snap, although she never has. Such a shame as the girl loves her, but all attempts at teaching the girl to be gentle, calm and to change her patting to stroking and not squeal with delight failed.

Small dogs are usually said to be not suitable for very young children, even though some might be.

Dd is 2.5 she is very good with animals when reminded to be gentle she not a jumpy sequelly type. But she is 2 so she doesn't know any better than cuddles and stuff.

The first time when the dog snapped dd wasn't really unsupervised there were 3 adults in the room but we were talking, the dog came in from outside I hadn't even realised it was in the room so i didnt have my radar on. Not an excuse I should have been more aware. But that's my point I don't feel I can supervise every second 24 hours a day.

On previous occasions I've asked for the dog not to come to our house but forgot to mention it this time, so they just brought it. The PIL and dp are completely unaware, I don't think the understand why I get worried. So im the only one watching her with the dog which makes me stress out hense the 'snapping' in the op.

I'm honestly not a crazy 'danger' person and I'm very happy for dd to get scraped knees etc i think is a part of childhood. I try to encourage dd to be confident and adventurous. But I think I do have trust issues around dp due to many 'being left on changing table' type incidences and a refusal to accept the dangers.

The thing is, I would consider this dog a hazard tbh.
Even with supervision you won't be able to prevent a bite unless you are physically in between the dog and your dd at all times.
My dh and I both grew up around dogs btw.
I am not sure what to suggest re: talking to your DP and PILs. But I do know that if either of my children were bitten by any dog he woud only have it in our house if he was taking off to the vet.
I don't actually mean that to sound unkind or to be inflammatory. But I read him your op andthat's what he said.
Other ppl will have more helpful things to say, I'm sure.

I knew a family who had a food possessive dog.
It was a sweet mongrel. But used to growl sometimes when it's food bowl was taken away.
One day their kitten walked past when it was eating.
Last thing the kitten ever did.