To have a little bit of a (very unfair) rant

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Have broken foot and in non-weight bearing plaster cast and crutches. Am getting about and able to do more than I though at home - but it is limited.

DH is (mostly) being wonderful. He is self-employed and works long hours. He is carrying on doing this but also taken up a huge amount of the stuff I normally do (SAHM). He is doing a fantastic job with the most important things - the DCs, me (getting me to rest and not do stuff).

Cooking and domestic stuff is not his forte - but he is giving everything a really good go, happy to take lists from me of things I cannot do and get on with it.

I have not got a leg to stand on (ha...sorry bad pun) about complaining about what he is doing. But OMG some of it is driving me nuts. I have broached a few things, but he is trying so hard, is so concerned about me and me getting enough rest I would feel like the meanest, most entitled cow to say anything.

So AIBU to use this space to rant about a few bits which are driving me NUTS?

Are these things your DH or other family member do that are them trying to "help" so you cannot complain...if so share...make me feel less unfair

Go for it.
I had keyhole surgery on my knee years ago, and was laid up for a bit and at dh's mercy. As much as I told myself not to, I did get very inwardly aggravated by his sloppiness, corner cutting and lack of due care and attention.
I know how you feel. Rant away!

So, DH Please, Please would you

Wipe the worksurfaces properly. Not just a semi-circle where you have been specifically been working - but also the rest, where all the crumbs have spread.

Not put the dirty washing on a basket of clean washing.

When I say I cannot put the washing away, I really cannot - opening drawers, man, handling coathangers, holding clothes and crutches do not mix easily. You and the DC put yours away- please could someone do mine and the linen.

When you are dishing up cooked food, please try and balance the presentation with heat. Beautifully lined up brocolli and carrots are better hot.

Please do not start brushing DS1's teeth for him again. I have spent months getting him to do it himself. It is easier/quicker to do it yourself - but he needs to learn.

Phew. Enough for now.

And by that I mean running the household not to my own standards.
I did manage not to be a complete cow to him, but it was hard.

Rant away. My DH is currently recovering from knee surgery and cannot do a bastarding thing for himself, so I'm doing all the household chores, looking after 4 dc and a laid up H. He normally does loads around the house so I'm really feeling the burn. Meanwhile he's sitting in the armchair with his leg up, "helpfully" pointing out all the things I've missed or forgotten to do.

Bless him, but he is driving me bonkers. Only another 3 weeks to go before he's allowed back on his feet

I'm in a similar position to yourself and (should) be on bedrest. It is driving me insane especially the housework side of things. I am tempted to get a cleaner dh does try,but appears to not see dust or stuff that sits around the house unmoved. I am aware I have too much time on my hands.....

Oh and

When (half) wiping the work surfaces, please could you also look around you and also wipe any surface that needs it. Not just the island - but the worktop by the range and by the coffee machine.

He spent most of Saturday morning just putting stuff away - stuff I would normally just do during the week - the drill, a packaging box, a bag of camping stuff, a sal delivery for the water softener. He is mostly just getting on with it, but there is the occasional martyr-y air. He did apologise in advance when the cast went on - he warned me he would occasionally grumble at stuff but not to take it personally.

He broke his collar bone when DD1 was 8 weeks old so he had to sit around though not as much as he did - his legs still worked FFS a lot then - so have been on his side on the fence in the past.