My Mil died last Tuesday. She was diagnosed with lung cancer 7 weeks ago.
My Mil had been ill about 3 years ago but made a good recovery. She was housebound for 9 months. I looked after her. I took her to every hospital & doctor appointment. I cleaned her house, did the shopping or ran errands,
My Sil hardly came to see Mil. She lives about 45 min drive from Mil.
Sil turned up yesterday. She's cleared Mil house. I went round today & there is nothing left. Even the look rolls & washing powder are gone.
Dp & i have paid for everything going into Mil house for 6 weeks as Mil couldn't remember her pin numbers & we didn't have power of attorney. We are paying for the funeral as Sil says she's no money.
What really hurt was the state of Mil house today. Take away just left in the kitchen. Ashtrays all over the house, beer bottles in the living room & kitchen. Rubbish bags open in the garden...total lack of respect. Im furious. Shes a grabby bitch...Im AIBU? Mil wasn't my mum but i love her like a mum. Sil couldn't give a shit about her.
Its not my stuff but she had no right to take anything. All the photos are gone. Tvs, stereo, food, linen, cleaning stuff, glasses, curtains, camera... When i called her, she told me she's coming back on Tue for the washing machine, fridge freezer & sofas!
AIBU or has Sil every right to do this as Mil was her mother?