To think they should simply Ignore each other

[Rachel778]

Don't know if this is an unreasonable or not really or what section I should put it .

My Son started secondary school and in one of his classes is a child whose Mum I know reasonably well .. The child is same as my Son . They never went same primary school though would sometimes see each other in passing . They never seemed to much notice each other at those times.

They had a major row last week and it ended with the "your mum" business (which my son said to the other child) in retaliation (thats His story though so I do not know who begun the tit for tat) ,

I have suggested to the other Mum that we tell them to simply ignore each other as they are , in our opinions, much the same in temperament etc . .. Would you suggest the same , if not for their sakes for the Teachers . As I said they are only in one Class together and I'm sure they can manage to ignore the other for 40 minutes .

Yep perfectly reasonable strategy. Cant bear it when parents wade in starting world war III. When my daughter was 5/6 she had a falling out with two kids. One set of parents phoned me on a sunday night threatening all sorts; the other one attacked my child minder at pick up. 2 years on and those kids are all friends (although my daughter says they have an agreement not to tell the parents) how ridiculous!

Not sure what you mean by "the your Mum business", but can thoroughly recommend the film "Carnage" for an insight into playground spats

Great film justmyview

Sorry , I meant to put same AGE as my Son there .

Your Mum business . They try to wind each other up (not just these two of the post but lots of teens) with Your Mum is FAT , , or Your Mum is UGLY ,,, etc . .. Things that really wouldn't bother the Mums but seems to wind children up .

justmyview No I haven't read that . . Is it a true life kind of book or for reference etc ?

Sorry for capitals but its how they emphasise the word themselves the teens ..

Sorry not Seen it .. lol .. Im just getting the hang of forums.

OP - Carnage is a film about parents getting together to discuss their children's argument. I can't discuss it in detail here for fear of spoiling it, but suffice to say, the people I know who have seen it, all thought it was excellent

There's a nice little twist at the end too, make sure you don't miss that.

Thank You justmyview . Ill see if the library has it or can reserve it . . I have also ordered a book called High Risk (though nothing to do with Son's behavior lol) about parents of anti social children (some would call them psychopaths or sociopaths) . I look forward to reading that and to watch the film you recommend

Yes, hope you can track it down. Carnage is entertainment with a good message in it, rather than a serious self-help guide.