to ask DH to walk the dog

[Mrschocolate]

I feel like crap. I am 5 months pregnant and I seem to have the flu.

DH has taken the DCs out for the day mostly to lessen my chance of infecting them.
DH took the dog out this morning and I usually take him lunch and tea time.
But when I took him out at lunch time I could only take him around the corner and I felt awful. So I had to take him back home and I have just let him in the garden.

I want to ask DH to take him tonight but he has had the DCs all day and feel guilty but I also feel bad for the dog who deserves a good walk.

DH will probably say yes but I am wondering if this is fair to him because my friend says it isn't and she would never expect her DH to do it.

You are ill - with flu like symptoms therefore YANBU

Your friend would never expect her husband to take any responsibility for the family pet? Bloody silly prat.

You're ill. The dog needs to be walked. I assume your husband is a fully functioning part of the family. Your friend is a bit weird. Families should pull together, when one member is ill, the others pitch in. Nobody needs to be a bloody martyr, dragging themselves along on their hands and knees in order to not Put Anyone Out.

Why is your friend's opinion remotely relevant?
It sounds as though your husband would see it as a given when you feel so poorly.

My friend is more of a traditionalist so her DH works and she takes care of the DCs, house ,dog etc

You usually take the dog out lunch and dinner time? Even when you have the DC all day? If that is the case why does your friend think childcare is only tiring when men do it?

I don't really know why friends opinion bothered me so much. I just feel a bit guilty because he has to work tomorrow and this should be his time off.

You are ill. Your friend is being silly. Your DH will be fine and doesn't sound at all as if he will mind looking after you.

Yes I take him at lunch and dinner just to make sure he isn't bored plus if it's raining he won't walk very far so it's good to have options.

maybe she's one of those who feels that if you're not doing it her way, you're criticising her!

Or maybe she's not as secure in her own arrangements as she'd have you believe.

Either way, it's not your problem. Do things the way that suits your family and leave her to do things her way in her family.

Tehe yes May be

1. The dog won't miss one walk! Especially as he's already had two today
2. It's the FAMILY dog. Ie a group responsibility. So if he goes, there is absolutely no reason why it has to be you

Yabu to 'ask' DH. It is not your chore when to are both ill and pregnant. Would he be worried about asking you to step in if the roles were reversed and he was ill? I doubt it!