to be angry that XH has just brought Dcs home 2hours early...

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(sorry I've not posted on here much before) after they've spent the whole of his weekend at his parents. I'm a teacher and was going to spend today planning. I've done most of it but was hoping to finish before they got back so I could have a free evening with them.

I was having a late lunch after walking the dog and was suprised to hear the front door open. If I'd known they were coming back now I'd have left dog walking to do with them which makes me even more mad. Of course I couldn't say anything to him then in case DCs hear but I'm so angry especially as I spent the whole of the summer changing my plans to suit XH as he has been quite poorly. I'm particularly angry as the excuse was that he and his fiance had to get back for her children who live with them. Therefore he cut short time with his DCs who have missed out on a weekend with their dad apart from a 2hr Sunday lunch with his parents to get back to children they see all the time.

AIBU to be so angry?

YANBU my mate had an ex like this - he would drop her in it at the last minute saying he could not have them on his day or could not do the school run etc cos he had to pick up his new womans kids from their school instead.

I would be angry too. My ex bought my dcs home early once but i was in town. He texted to see where i was then offered to come and pick me up as the kids wanted to come home. I asked them why they wanted to come back so early and they said they didn't. Ex had just said he was taking them back. I feel he holds all the control. He went to turkey with his gf for a week and only told me he wasn't having them for what amounted to three weeks a week before. If i turned up on his doorstep and said I'm off on holiday here are the kids he would call me a bad mum.

YANBU to be angry, YABU to spend time on here when you could be getting your planning done so you can still have a nice evening together

Yanbu that would annoy me no end!!

My xp had 2 dds and the arrangement was we had them Thursday through to Sunday morning as he had work all day Sunday and it was my chance to go to the gym and pool (I was childless and worked long hours through the week) thier mum was always several hours late picking them up on the Sunday and never in if we drove them to hers instead meaning i had to give up my gym day!
The poor girls.

And your poor dc, I hope they don't feel second best to his fiances dc.

Yanbu. My ex also did this once. I wasn't in so he phoned me demanding to know where I was. I wouldn't tell him so he threatened to not let me have the kids back at all!! Some men are total fuckwits!!

(Note for any MRAs reading I said some men)

Does he have a key to your house? Or was it the kids?

YANBU to be angry.

I'm all for being flexible with these things, but you need to know what's going on for that to work. Your ex should have let you know before he took them that he would like to bring them back a bit early so he'd know whether you would be in or not at the very least.

And I know the feeling of being raging at your ex when you have to be nice in front of the dc so you just have to swallow it. It's not nice.