To be a bit miffed at this? Or just totally unreasonable?

[Mosschops30]

Lovely boyf was seeing a girl for 9 months, her father became very ill was in ITU and he spent a lot of time with her at the hospital.
They split up after, that was over a year ago.

Two weeks ago she sent him a message saying her dad was ill again, he showed me the txt so hasn't kept anything secret.

This morning she text him to say he died this morning.

I find this odd, why would you txt your ex? He says it's because he got on well with her dad and is considering attending the funeral

I know he adores me, but can't help feeling suspicious of her motives

Am I being a bitch and BU?

I think YABU.

I text my ex (split up for approx. 3 years) when my sister died suddenly, and he text me when his mum died about a year after that. I was glad he did tell me - his mum was lovely.

I echo other comments upthread, grief makes us do things we may not do in normal circumstances - reaching out is one thing. She is probably going though hell and the last thing on her mind is to get up to no good with your DP.

Totally unreasonable - if he knew her father, why shouldn't she text him. And do you really think that, at a time when she has lost her father, she is going to be scheming to get back with your boyfriend?

You seriously need to get a grip - are you always this paranoid?

YABU
My DDad got on very well with one of DSaiS BFs. So well in fact that she ditched him in part for the amount of time they spent talking cars.