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To think she got what she deserves?

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FrigginRexManningDay · 21/09/2013 15:17

My friend had just had her second dc when she found out her husband had been seeing someone for months. The OW rang her and told her. They tried to work it it but it was too broken. Husband left for the OW and my friend was left devestated. OW and husband were very gloaty about their love,he finally had the perfect woman,she made very hurtful comments about my friends body.
Fast forward a few years and my friends life is going well,in a relationship,great job,happy kids etc. Found out that the ex left the other woman for someone else. They had had a baby together too.

AIBU and bitchy to think she got what she deserves? I know it takes two to tango and I hope he gets his karma but I can't help feeling that she knew he was a cheater,she helped break up a marriage and now karma has bitten her on the arse.

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BlingBang · 21/09/2013 16:19

No I wouldn't have sympathy for the other woman. I'd feel for the child though who didn't deserve a crap father.

McNewPants2013 · 21/09/2013 16:22

How is a he crap father.

PomBearArmy · 21/09/2013 16:22

I don't have any sympathy for a woman who kicks another woman when she's down and vulnerable. The spiteful gloating sounds even worse than the cheating.

BlingBang · 21/09/2013 16:27

Mcnewpants "where as this man just more on and has the majority of his responsibility gone."

Your own words but you are asking why I call him a crap father?

InTheRedCorner · 21/09/2013 16:35

I don't have any sympathy for a woman who kicks another woman when she's down and vulnerable. The spiteful gloating sounds even worse than the cheating.

This ^

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FrigginRexManningDay · 21/09/2013 16:36

It was Pom,only she ended up living with me for a while I dread to think what could have happened had she been on her own.

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McNewPants2013 · 21/09/2013 16:39

Because nothing in the op have stated other wise. I am sure op would have said messed around with maintance or didn't have regular contact.

Of course a NRP has less responsibilities, where as they don't have to maintain a suitable home for a child or most of the time not there when the child is upset and thing like that because the NRP isn't there.

BlingBang · 21/09/2013 17:04

You really think he sounds like good father material? A good role model?

McNewPants2013 · 21/09/2013 17:13

I don't know what he is like as a father, but he is shit at relationships.

Plenty of mothers have affairs, does that make them shit mothers.

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FrigginRexManningDay · 21/09/2013 17:33

Since you ask he's an OK father. Maintenance is irregular,he sees the kids for a few hours every three weeks as he gets every third Sunday off in his job.

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BlingBang · 21/09/2013 18:03

Does that pass as an ok father these days, jings!

Bowlersarm · 21/09/2013 18:06

It's human nature. Don't feel bad but enjoy your own gloating moment in private (and we all know MN is private....just voicing thoughts here you might not dare to in RL)

moonfacebaby · 21/09/2013 18:20

The gloating fr

moonfacebaby · 21/09/2013 18:29

Oops - damn phone!

The gloating from both of them is the worst part of this. Having an affair is one thing - at least have the decency to show some level of empathy for what you've put someone through....

I should imaging that now she's going through the same thing herself, she's at least understanding how horrendous it is.

But yes, he needs a massive dose of karma - he's the biggest fuckwit in this whole situation.

zingally · 21/09/2013 18:47

She behaved shockingly, and karma got her. Hopefully it'll get him soon as well!

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