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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be annoyed at my employer.

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Joanne279 · 21/09/2013 08:25

Ok, so after 7 years service, today is my last official day at work. My 8 year old is due to have major hip reconstruction so as my maternity leave is now ending, I've decided to talk some time to be a stay at home mum especially as my daughter will need alot of care.

I resigned over a month ago, but I've not even received a call from my manager of an official letter from the company to confirm my resignation, leave date and remaining holiday pay that's being paid to me.

AIBU to think this is a bit off? 7 years I've worked here and I feel really hurt by this. It's like I never mattered or I'm not worth a quick phone call or letter.

Or am I just being a bit dramatic?

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StuntGirl · 21/09/2013 08:27

I've never had that. Don't know if that's standard or not though.

Pennyacrossthehall · 21/09/2013 08:36

Your post reads as if you have been on maternity leave and decided not to go back, so you haven't actually been at work for many months, is that right?

flowery · 21/09/2013 08:43

Presumably you rang your manager to check he or she actually received the letter?

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Joanne279 · 21/09/2013 08:47

Yes penny that's right.

I know they've received the letter because my colleagues know I'm not going back to work.

Just think it would have been courteous to acknowledge I'm leaving. I may be on maternity leave, but I'm still employed.

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AnythingNotEverything · 21/09/2013 08:48

I would be concerned that they haven't received the letter! Did you use a trackable service?

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Joanne279 · 21/09/2013 08:49

Also, I physically took the letter into work. I didn't post it.

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Pennyacrossthehall · 21/09/2013 08:53

Well, I would expect a formal letter from them to confirm it, but it's possible that your manager is not that thrilled.

They had to keep your job open for six/twelve months and only now that your maternity leave is ending you've decided not to go back. I'm not saying that you can't do that, but from the other side it's not great.

beepoff · 21/09/2013 08:58

Yeah it's not great but it's the way it is.

When I announced I was moving teams at work my current team and boss pretty much acted as if I didn't exist.

My new boss didn't call or email me in the 3 weeks before I went on mat leave (I emailed and tried to call him several times).

Another woman I work with who went on leave a few weeks after me had a surprise party thrown by her boss in the office for her second mat leave, so that smarted.

I never received a card, call, email or anything from a single colleague when my baby was born.

I have been their 8 years and am apparently a popular and valued member of staff...

ConfusedKiwi · 21/09/2013 09:10

I'm surprised you haven't had a confirmation letter accepting your resignation and setting out any relevant details - mainly as it helps cover the company in case there are disagreements.

Depending on the size of company and relationship with your manage I wouldn't expect a call. If you called to resign they may have viewed this as their last contact (although as above I'd have always issued a letter to confirm).

If you want 'leaving drinks' or similar you may need to just contact colleagues and suggest a date - they may presume you aren't interested in catching up/too busy with baby and daughter.

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Joanne279 · 21/09/2013 09:10

Beepoff. I know the feeling. Sucks doesn't it. I work(worked) in a supermarket so its not like my job was 'kept open' they shift people around to suit the business so its not like mt manager has a 'hole' in his department

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beepoff · 21/09/2013 09:13

Penny makes a good point.

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Joanne279 · 21/09/2013 09:14

I just would have liked to have felt that they valued my years of service enough for a quick call. But hey, there aren't many employers these days that make their staff feel valued.

I just needed a moan :( thanks guys.

X x x

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Joanne279 · 21/09/2013 09:15

Should have been a :) x x x

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StuntGirl · 21/09/2013 09:16

Your job was still 'kept open' while you've been away! That's why you've had to resign, because you still had a job there

My colleague left after 6 years last week. If I hadn't organised a collection, bought the present and card and got everyone to sign it she'd have got nada, from us or the company.

flowery · 21/09/2013 09:18

Sounds a bit rubbish, but when you went in to hand in your letter, did you not even speak to your manager?

StuntGirl · 21/09/2013 09:20

I don't think Penny does make a good point. Women sometimes choose to leave at the end of their maternity. It's not like its a surprise. A manager worth their salt will have seen this as a potential issue and been ready and prepared to hire new staff if needed.

PractialJoke · 21/09/2013 09:25

Iirc yiuve had 3x maternity leave in this 7 years and and made some unreasonable demands when it was time to go back, so im not surprised the local manager isn't making a bug fuss. You should have a ho letter informing dates and numbers though - ask for it.

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