To want to say something to this woman who is being blatantly two faced?

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I probably am BU but I don't know why I'm feeling
Really angry and pissed off at a set of text messages I've just received from a woman whose dd is friends with my dd at school. I've already posted about this woman and how she's constantly trying to befriend me and has quite spectacularly bitched about nearly every mother in Dd's class who hasn't invited her dd to a birthday party/play date, when my dd has been.

Well I've just received some messages from her telling me all the parties her dd has been invited to and then a one liner at the end asking me if I've been invited...this wouldn't bother me, except she has bitched and whined about and taken the piss out of two of the mothers for the past year to me because they hadn't invited her dd to their 5th birthday parties last year, and all of a sudden (now that they're In the same class) now she's been invited they're nice lovely women again.

All summer I was bombarded with messages about how she hates one of the mums when she found out dd had been invited over to play and then these were tripled when she found out I'd invited her for a play. Now she's been invited to the girl's party all of a sudden everything has been forgotten.

Honestly, how the fuck can people be so two faced? Am I missing something about the importance of birthday parties? Do they stand as a popularity contest or something because this woman obviously thinks so.

I'm holding back from replying right now, but I really want to point out how two faced she is.

Ignore, ignore, ignore.

She sounds charming! Don't reply. She sounds like one of those really immature women who measure their worth by being liked by people who really shouldn't matter in the grand scheme of her life.

I bet she'll be bitching about you to her new besties in double-quick time.

Meh! Not worth you getting pissed off over.

Blimey, definitely don't answer, she sounds a bit full on.

Did you say anything about not wanting to listen to her ranting about the women at the time?

Because that could come back on you if she lumps you together with her in not liking them.

Saying she hates one of them for that reason is totally OTT, you'd maybe say something to vent, but not take against the person.

Is she going to do the same to you?

Would that bother you much?

She sounds like a real joy

Personally if it were me - I would either ignore or text her back saying something along the lines of "please don't text me again, happy to discuss if you feel the need to understand why"

then tell the sad bint face to face "I'm sorry but I find your two faced back biting behaviour very uncomfortable to deal with & I prefer not to bother with you any more" then smile sweetly & walk away

Agent, I've never said anything to her apart from tell her I think the women are nice and that she doesn't really know them. But still she sends me joke messages about how they're my best friends and I'm dumping her ...

I know too well I could get bitched about too and I probably have for making excuses to meet her for the past few weeks. The last time we met (during school holidays) she suggested we should meet once a week with our Dd's so they don't "miss" each other. They're in the same school and play everyday at lunch and break .

I haven't replied to the messages and don't think I will. Such a stupid childish person. I thought people grew up once they left school, obviously not.

'I'm not going to be friends with you if you're friends with her'

'Oh, so you like them more than me do you??'

'No, you're my friend, not theirs'

She's very possessive isn't she?

She's just using you to bolster her low self esteem/insecurities, and not above using the DC to manipulate you.

Lucky you eh?

She sounds massively insecure. Try to avoid her, but expect her to bitch about you when you do.

Oh gosh..how exhausting. Just ignore her if you can. When you can't smile and nod.

Oh gosh..how exhausting. Just ignore her if you can. When you can't smile and nod.

when you can't, smile and nod. (comma makes a difference!)

I think other people will pay as much attention to her bitching about you as you do to her bitching about them.

I'd text back to say that 'I'm not sure, let me check through my invite pile and get back to you as I've lost track'

Yes, possessive, insecure, exhausting...I've had enough but she just keeps coming back no matter how much I ignore her. I've never known anyone like this before.

If you hate someone so much, you'd decline the party invitations wouldn't you? She has stayed with her Dd along with her toddler at every birthday party invite which I find odd in itself. So she's going to go and sit and chat with these women even though she's spoken badly about them and called them stuck up and posh behind their backs.

ThePowerof3, haha, yeah but that would backfire on me, because I'd have to hear her bitching about the party girl's mum for the next few years!