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To be annoyed when people say "You know none of that's baby tho" re my bump

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LongTailedTit · 20/09/2013 23:04

Yes, I'm fully aware that DC2 is only the size of a bean, however, I do already have a bump.

The bump is currently the same as when I was 4/5 months pg with DS, and I'm just coming up to 8 weeks...
I can't wear my normal jeans, and have moved into maternity ones already purely for comfort.

Yes, it's largely gas and water retention I'm certain bloody well feels like a Zeppelin has inflated inside me, but I bloody well resent the implication that it's nothing to do with being pregnant!

**'people' = DSis

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buss · 20/09/2013 23:05

it'd rude..ask her if she's implying that you're fat.

PeppiNephrine · 20/09/2013 23:07

She didn't say its nothing to do with being pregnant, she said its not baby. Which it isn't.
She's your sister, thats the kind of thing they say. Get over it.

PresidentServalan · 20/09/2013 23:09

You do know that you can be as insulting as you like back and blame your hormones? Use the standard 'oh do fuck off' Grin

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LongTailedTit · 20/09/2013 23:37

Peppi, she was insinuating that it was in my imagination, she meant " Hmm You do know you're just a bit fat".

Maybe I should have added a Grin at the end of the OP for clarity, I was just a bit annoyed, 'cos who the heck would really think the minute foetus/baby was actually taking up all that space so soon?
Tis clearly wind and bloating in my case, but pregnancy-caused wind of vast quantities, not yer standard post beans on toast 'Oof'.

'Get over it' is a pointless and rude thing to post btw.

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LongTailedTit · 20/09/2013 23:43

President, sadly cannot tell DSis to fuck off, she has a serious sense of humour failure around 'bad language' and would not take it well! Grin

Even if I had actual hormone induced rage and cried at her, I'd get a head tilt at best.

I just found it irksome that she felt the need to point it out, I mean, really, how thick does she think I am? Confused very, clearly

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TwoStepsBeyond · 20/09/2013 23:44

I found that I looked pregnant a lot earlier with Dc 2 & 3, it all just relaxes a lot quicker!

"Did you mean to sound so rude?" should do it Grin

MrsMook · 20/09/2013 23:47

I had to tell friends at 11wks as my bump was obvious. After getting home, I had a big clear out, and emerged from the toilet sans bump. Bloating, baby, it's all caused by the pregnancy anyway. No need for her to be rude about it.

Secretswitch · 20/09/2013 23:49

Honey, I broke out the maternity jeans by week four with my third child. Your Dsis is very rude. Any jealousy, perhaps?

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LongTailedTit · 20/09/2013 23:50

Ack! How could I forget??! The MN standard would've been perfect!

No doubt will get another opportunity soon.

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PomBearWithAnOFRS · 20/09/2013 23:51

Just smile sweetly and say "you're right, it's four babies" and swan serenely on your way Grin
Or say "I know - it's like that episode of The young Ones when Vyvyan got pregnant" and swan serenely on your way Grin
Or say "well, some of it's definitely baby, unless it's an alien!" and swan serenely on your way Grin

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LongTailedTit · 20/09/2013 23:52

Gosh no, no jealousy, she's in faaaar better shape than me and 4" taller so has always looked better.
Also has 3 DC and much to be thankful for.
We have very very different lives, but there is no comparison so I don't go in for jealousy of her either. apart from those 4", I'd love to be taller

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LongTailedTit · 20/09/2013 23:53

PomBear - I like the 3rd option! Grin

If strangers ask me if I'm hoping for a boy or girl, I will be telling them I've got my fingers crossed for a kitten.

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DaleyBump · 20/09/2013 23:55

When I was 16 weeks, I was buying some baby bits out a charity shop. The woman behind the counter asked how old the baby was and I said "oh, he's not born yet :)". She then asked me if I was pregnant and when I said yes, she said "I don't think you are pregnant hen. There's no bump there at all." And she kept trying to convince me that I must be wrong, of course I'm not pregnant Hmm currently 30 weeks and people are amazed when I tell them I have 10 weeks to go.

Shapechanger · 20/09/2013 23:58

Nearly everyone gets bigger, quicker, with a second baby. I was like the Hindenburg with no.2.

Just tell her she's hurt your feelings because she has.

After I had dc1 my husband's best friend came to see us. I had a post-baby bump (thanks Kate Middleton for showing the world it's normal) and when I opened the door he said 'And she's having another one!!'.

What a twat, I have never forgotten it. But he was a bachelor and childless, so I guess that's a kind of excuse. A woman with children should know better though, and not be so cruel.

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LongTailedTit · 21/09/2013 00:05

A twat indeed, jeez. Bet you were rather tempted to just shut the door in his face!

I'm pretty much convinced that this is all down to it being pregnancy #2, I was really small with DS, always felt envious of other people's big bumps, and only made it to 36wks in the end so never got really big.
This one will no doubt fulfil my large bump ambition... I'm only half a stone heavier than I was before DS, but it's distributed pretty unpleasantly and I do look much bigger.

I'll have forgotten it all by the morning (bar this thread, oops!)

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Secretswitch · 21/09/2013 00:05

Hmmmm... Then I am doubly angry for you! You just enjoy your lovely pregnancy and don't give a thought to your ratched sister..Flowers

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LongTailedTit · 21/09/2013 00:13

Aw, she's lovely really, but as a family we really are lacking in the tact department, I am just a bit testy as she tends to go for patronising whereas my speciality is bluntness. :)

Now my gran, she was a corker at blatantly rude personal comments...

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AgentZigzag · 21/09/2013 00:14

I'd be wearing a t-shirt two sizes too small (Fabienne-style) and stuffing cake in me cake 'ole when I next saw her Grin

I was much bigger much quicker with DD2, huge Shock it was great Grin

Got called fatty/porky which fucked me off no end, but it was their problem not mine.

Shapechanger · 21/09/2013 00:15

No LongTailedTit I didn't shut the door in his face but I had a good cry after he'd left :(

Be careful what you wish for, too. I don't understand why anyone would want a big bump. Nothing wrong with it but it's fucking uncomfortable. Everyone thought I was having twins and I felt really self conscious and couldn't even turn over in bed by the end. DD was 4.8 kilos though :)

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LongTailedTit · 21/09/2013 00:31

I suspect I won't be as enthralled with a big bump when I actually have one, every single one of my friends told me the last month was hell.
DS was a mere 2.2k iirc, so I got nowhere near...

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Driz · 21/09/2013 00:38

If you are large for dates, are you sure it isn't more than one?

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LongTailedTit · 21/09/2013 00:52

Grin Quite sure, thanks!
I had an early scan this week due to some minor issues, definitely only one in there, and they even put me back a few days.

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lagertops · 21/09/2013 00:52

Unwanted comments RE appearance are fucking annoying, so YANBU in that respect. But considering what she said was more factual than anything (a baby is only 5.5 cm at 12 weeks, so a lot of what your showing definitely isn't baby) I wouldn't stress.

Hell, I'm showing a lot now that I'm 7 months, but still resent people touching my tum cos all they are really copping a feel of really is my gut stretched over my womb!

Driz · 21/09/2013 01:28

Smile I was large for dates too and they scanned me to check it wasn't two! I did end up with a mahoosive baby though. don't want to worry you!

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