To not give nursery leaving presents/cakes?

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My DD is about to leave nursery and I gather it's the done thing to give cakes or gifts for the staff on the last day (or is it?). However, we're moving nursery due to a number of safety incidents where nursery have admitted fault. It's all been very shoddy and as a result I'm planning on doing nothing on the last day, except for getting her out of there asap. But, AIBU?

No, of course not. I wouldn't either in your case.

If you aren't happy then no I wouldn't give anything to them. It's usually a thank you that you give a gift to staff for. In your case, I wouldn't.

Not at all, I have been involved in playgroups etc for years and to be honest the whole present thing is totally OTT. In the voluntary sector what Playgroups would prefer would be actual practical help rather than yet another tray of cakes/tin of biscuits etc and if your nursery is providing a service, then you pay the fees for it and to have to show 'gratitude' for a service that you are not happy with is totally pointless.

YANBU.

Small gifts for the staff are nice when you want to show appreciation and thanks, but when you are talking your child out because they haven't done a good enough job, then there's no way you should give gifts. They are not obligatory.

To be honest it depends on whether you are happy with any of the staff who have been in direct contact with your dd. we gave gifts on ds's last day in baby room because his key workers had been wonderful he really loved and bonded with them and we wanted to say thank you. Even if we had been unhappy with the organisation itself, it's policies, overall performance etc. we would still have done this to show our appreciation of the particular individuals. But if you haven't like any of the people looking after your daughter and you don't feel they've worked hard to look after her then I can't see why you need to buy anything.

Thanks all. My social conscience is tingling and don't want to do the wrong thing.

Monkeymamma, that's a good point, thanks. There's only one member of staff who's been there since she started two years ago, who we like, so perhaps we could give her something, though DD hasn't been in her room for months. As for the rest of them, they're all so new....the staff don't stay long either so there's a huge turnover. In fact, her keyworker left recently and I've got no idea who her new one is. They don't tell us stuff like that, I think we're supposed to guess.

Aren't they required to let you know the staff turnover in the prospectus or whatever?

Don't think so, and I doubt they'd want to advertise 4 managers in 2 years.