To want dh to take the day off work or

[CuriosityCola]

at least try and reduce his hours.

I have two kids under two. The youngest is only a couple of months old. I have struggled all last week with what I thought was just a cold. I now have Sinusitis and the makings of a chest infection. He has been working 12 hour days. Today after very little sleep he just looked at me and said,' shame we don't have any options'. Then seemed surprised that I wanted to cancel my birthday celebrations tomorrow night.

Fully prepared to be told I'm being unreasonable. What does everyone else do when they are unwell and have no help?

[YouTheCat]

Right, this is just me trying to advise how to get through today. Go and get the immunisation done. Pick up a few things food wise, to get you through the day and then do an online shop (if possible) for the rest to arrive tomorrow. Snuggle the kids up and try to do as little as possible.

Don't forget to stock up on paracetamol/lemsips (or whatever helps you feel better).

Yes, your dp should step up and you'd probably feel a whole lot better for a day in bed but I know that is sometimes not doable.

Hope you're feeling much better soon.

[HoleyGhost]

Could dh sort out emergency childcare (nursery or Nanny) while you recover?

[Shellywelly1973]

My Dp has never taken a day off when I've been ill. 14 years & 3 dc so there have been plenty of days i needed help.

What he doesn't understand is that i now resent him for that. He's a selfish twit!

Right now Im carrying him due to family
circumstances, financially, emotionially, house, dc etc. i know he wouldn't do the same for me.

[Shellywelly1973]

Sorry my point is, look after yourself. You are the only person, you can rely on!

[CuriosityCola]

Managed to make it to the shops and buy in some essentials (cake!). The dc are both being high maintenance. Can't decide if its because I have no patience or if they are getting sick too. I have bought in a healthy dinner as we just had take-away last night.

My babysitter is working today. Only 6 hours until the kids bedtime.

[CuriosityCola]

'Shelly' resentment is a horrible thing isn't it?

[onlytheonce]

He has responsibilities other than to his work - his wife and children! And as pointed out, his work cannot say no if he needs to take time off due to an emergency. Sounds to me like he doesn't want to, which is kinda understandable - looking after a sick partner and kids isn't much fun - but incredibly selfish.

[CuriosityCola]

Dh has come home earlier than usual I now have my pjs on and a lemsip in hand.

It's made me think about how vulnerable I am as a stay at home mum though. Vulnerable probably isn't the right word, but I need a contingency plan for similar circumstances in future.