Expecting too much of inlaws?

[Teaqueen12]

Namechanged - although this situation will out me I didn't want people reading other posts on here.
I'm asking this with a heavy heart but need some unbiased opinion on this please.
Basically dh and I had our first much wanted baby just before Xmas. His family were so excited about the prospect of us having a baby even when we were just trying- all the way through pregnacy his mum and sister were calling me and popping round as they only live about 10 mins away. His dad even showed interest and he's never normally bothered about anything.
When ds arrived they visited a couple times not as much as I expected but it was Xmas so they would have been busy. Since then we've seen them probably 6 times mostly with us taking ds to either of their homes.
Last week ds was in hospital and thankfully was released soon nothing too serious but still poorly. Dh called them to say ds was unwell had been in hosp and hopefully would be better soon. Since then nothing no phone calls or texts to check if he's ok.

I just find this weird they don't seem interested or am I expecting too much from people?

That sounds a bit odd. Perhaps they are waiting for an invitation? I was similarly surprised when I barely saw MIL, so I just said to her one day "MIL you know that you can ring if you want to visit don't you? Because you're not imposing and if I've got plans I'll say so." She came round a bit more after that.

You could also say that you were upset with the lack of communication after DS was in hospital.

Perhaps they liked the idea of a baby in the family more than the reality?

mmm, my inlaws were also very excited while I was pregnant then once baby was born....well they just prefer their own world to ours.

I like what redexpat said though, worth trying. Having experienced disinterested inlaws I would recommend not getting wound up about it cos the only person to get hurt is you.

I did get VERY wound up as did DH and things spiralled from there. we are now no contact.

They've probably read some of the many threads on MN about 'interfering in laws' and are waiting to be asked.
If you want them to pop round, you might have to say "You can pop in any time you know - it will be lovely to see you for a cuppa" (in case they've read all the threads by MNers who hate people popping in )
or ask if they'd like to make a routine of coming over every {inset day and time that would suit}.
Not sure about the not calling when he was poorly though.
Hope he's feeling better now.

I agree with backforgood. If you want people to visit you invite them round. How often does your husband phone them? Maybe they feel they have made alot of effort and wish their son would phone them more or invite them over. What does your husband think?
They maybe decided the popping round was rude and intrusive.

Agree with all above comments.

If you would like more visits why not give them a call and invite them round for say Sunday lunch & See how it goes. Maybe thery are bng tactful and letting you have precious time together as a new family.