to think DH should have moved the furniture by now?

[WotchOotErAPolis]

We have some new furniture coming this morning, which I bought last week. DH knows I have bought it, he knows it's coming. I asked him to help move the bedrooms around to accommodate it - after I bought it; at the weekend [several times]; last night; this morning. It's arriving in the next couple of hours and I've just had to move a wardrobe and hoover on my own, whilst he's in the study next door, playing with a new door handle for his car!

Once it's arrived, the old stuff needs moving out [I did ask for it to go out in the garage too, but he's not done that either], so I'll either have to do it myself or ask a male friend to help me do it.

I have a bad back, torn ligaments in my knee and cystitis right now, so I do need a little help.

AIBU to ask that he helps me out just a little bit?

Leave it for him to do when he gets home.

Go next door and remove the door handle from his selfish grasp and tell him where it will be going if he doesn't get his arse in gear.

Go out leave him to deal with it, tell him to phone you when it is completed.

My DH is a bit like this, so I feel your pain.< eyes collection of cycling paraphernalia that is totally absorbing DH at the moment> On reflection, I think Morgause has the right idea.

You've moved a wardrobe with a bad back and torn ligaments? I could barely walk when I got cystitis never mind move heavy stuff! He needs telling. Now.

Consequences.

People don't change a pattern of behaviour unless there is a reward for doing so or a punishment for not.

Personally, rather than have a (possibly unproductive) confrontation with him (after which, nothing changes), I'd take quoteunquote's approach. Go out for the day. He will have to deal with it all and suddenly develop a new understanding of why you asked him to do what you did.

Tell the delivery people to put the furniture in his study.

Take the door handle and tell him that unless he gets his arse in gear, you'll shove it where the sun doesn't shine.

Why haven't you gone into his study and asked him to help you? Would he actually refuse if you told him you were about to move a wardrobe on your own? Why are you doing it?

Both my exs were like this. Some people will do nothing for others unless it is of direct benefit to them. Personally I vote for LTB! He can polish his door handle til his hearts content then, lazy swine.