To speak to the school?

[Orchwoid]

I've just been to collect my son from his school and he's told me that he won't be cast in his school Christmas play but all the other children will.

I am fumming. I am going to go and speak to his teacher first thing tomorrow morning but I am so angry that I can't work out whether I'm being reasonable or not.

I think you need to calm down first and gather a few facts before you go storming in.

Did he say why ?

My niece told me that she found a tiger in the jungle at school today.

Calm down and find out if it is true before charging in all guns blazing.

Calm down. He might have the wrong end of the stick

Why won't he be cast?

How old is he? You sure he is right? Or that he hasn't opted out?

Are you sure he hasn't got the wrong end of things ? How old is he and why does he think this ?

Is it a punishment for something? In which case, have you had a letter home about it?

He is seven. They told him that he can't have a part. I am fumming because it's no fair and surely they have to give him a part when the rest of the school has one?,

But what was the reason?

Has he behaviour issues? Not handed homework in? Shy?

Doesn't sound likely - I would speak to the teacher to get the full story.

Could it be a threat/ploy ... IF you don't then you won't be in the play?

I think you'll find all kids in the class will be given some sort of part in the production...whether it's singing in the background or helping with props etc.

They can't always find an acting part for every child.

As others have said, calm down and speak to the teacher.

Will "all" the other children be taking part, or just his friends?

Ask nicely what's the situation is. Say you think there's been some confusion, be smiley and nice until you know if there's anything to be fuming about.

Talking to 'the school' won't get you far, after all it's just bricks and mortar.... The teacher might offer more information though, so I would try that first!

Do you honestly believe they have given the whole school a part and told your DS he cAnt have one? Really?

I don't know if you're new to MN or a name changer but if you'd been here a whole you'd know that things like this are rarely 100% true.

I have joined this website for some good advice. Hello Louise :-)

He said that they said he couldn't have a part but he didn't say why.

I am so fumming because it is a new school and there Christmas play is supposed to be good even though we don't believe in God and all that shit. I was looking forward to watching him.

Check it out, but it's not impossible. In my last year of primary they promised a part to all of year 6; all got parts except my best friend and me (and we were reasonably good kids, it wasn't a punishment). BF's mum took it up with the school, mine didn't, it didn't make any difference. Life isn't fair. As it happens, neither of us was that fussed, we helped behind the scenes.

So every other child in the school has a part, apart from your son?

Hmm!

Yeah, that sounds plausible.

we don't believe in God and all that shit

Woah. Lose the attitude before you go in or you will not get far.

What dontmind says, there will be an explanation which will probably make you feel glad you didn't show how cross you were!

You sound delightful

Wonder if his attitude is similar to yours

Doubtful

If he has no idea why, then I'd say he has the wrong end of the stick or has half heard something.

Instead of going in all guns blazing, ready for a fight, how about just asking his teacher about the Christmas production?

Take all things said by 7 year olds unable to explain why, with a huge pinch of salt.

Or you will be in danger of becoming the shouty parent that teachers don't take seriously when there is a real issue.

What do you mean, he didn't say why? Ask him!!!!