To expect my DH to get up to our 2 year old once in a while????

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My DS is almost 3 and wakes up most nights calling 'muuuuuumy'. My DH usually sleeps on which is extremely infuriating! But last night he reached a new low! I was fast asleep and our son called out as usual. Next thing I hear my husband telling me to wake up as our DS is calling me! I told him to go see to him but he said 'no he's not calling me,he's calling you' AIBU to expect him to get off his backside once in a while to see to his son!! I'm so tired but sure that doesn't matter, I'm a SAHM and I do nothing' anyway!!

I.would say "he is only calling me because he knows fine fucking.well that you wont bother your arse,now get in there and see to your son"

Give him schoolnights off if he works and make Fri and Sat nights his responsibility for nught wakings..DH and I have done this since dd was born.

What is he waking for?

YANBU

Don't let him get away with it. But don't tackle the issue in the middle of the night when you're both half asleep. Talk to him about him doing his fair share during the day when you can both discuss it better.

We have discussed it before but he just flatly refuses to do it! I end up getting up in case all the noise weakens my DD! Usually I just get on with it but I was so cross this time! I feel we need to discuss it again! Thank you for replying!

YADNBU.

Is he a complete prick about other things as well?

I keep hearing about men like this and I just don't get it. How is it simply not their responsibility?! I assume you also do all meal prep for dc, get bags ready before going out and do the bulk of nappy changing, even on weekend? These parents are "good time" parents: happy to do the fun stuff but completely unwilling to do anything that requires initiative of responsibility. Usually they feel that bringing in all the money exempts them from all other responsibilities.

I'm sorry op. talk to him. But I'm not that hopeful. If he's generally a nice man hopefully you will get somewhere but if its been like this for more than 3 years, I'm doubtful.

Nice of him to abuse the luxury of you being able to step.in.

If he was a lone parent he would need to do two.nights a week minimum!

I would look at other areas where he doesnt parent. My SILs oh had never done a nappy, never done a bathtime. He would only hold/feed the baby when we were there, never any other time. Never got.up in the night, flatly refused.

He then over time would argue about her getting her haircut,.go to work with both buggies in the car, trapping her essentially, as her dd couldnt walk and was too heavy to be carried.

Needless to say, they split.