Opinions on men watching porn/masturbating. - isnt that what SINGLES do?

[Corrigan92]

I'm talking father of your child, lives with you, long term thing. opinions on looking at pics of other girls, internet porn and masturbating, isn't that one of the reasons FOR relationships? that you have each other for that kind of stuff? not there right hand and a laptop screen ...opinions guys!

Idk LRD, there's some utter filth out there, as in really wrong stuff that involves poo and things like that. I would be pretty freaked out if I found out DP chucks one out over that.

Just out of curiosity OP, if a man is in a relationship and masturbates without porn and thinks about a colleague, friend or someone on telly would that be better than using porn?

I'm a woman in a relationship and I still love nothing more than taking the laptop to bed when I get an afternoon to meself.

I completely agree with most of you I was just wondering others opinions as a lot of my friends are disgusted with there men when they do this but I think there's nothing wrong with it to which they think I'm crazy! if he's looking at pics of your best mate or something then yeah that's wrong but reandom else I don't see the problem as long as its not anything below the belt, excuse the pun such as children, rape etc then I don't see the big deal some women make! however to the first commenter I can't tell if your being sarcastic or sincere either way that's just not right of you feel that way why string her along just to hurt her more in the long run

I am in a relationship. We both watch porn on occasion and masturbate. We also have a good sex life.

I masturbate when he isn't around-we have different sleep/work patterns and it helps me sleep.
He does it whilst I sleep sometimes. I'd much rather he did that than went and slept with somebody else-people have needs and if I cant satisfy for whatever reason then Id rather he saw to himself lol

I think knocking one out now and again is perfectly acceptable

In this case DIY is better than hiring someone else to get the job done!

I give my DH my bravissimo catalogue to keep in his bedside drawer. . I think masturbation is healthy. Not too sure about porn though.

For women it is different as we can visualize in our minds more. Thank you Michael Fassbender/Richard Armitage etc for all the hours of pleasure you have given me.

Well not sure, I think women do it too tbh, but if I was with someone I'de demand he want him to gives his attention to me and me only. Badger that's appalling.

My husband and I had a massive row about this recently. He had said that he didn't watch porn and told me he didn't want me to do it as I wa obviously fantasising about having sex with the men in it - not how porn works for me, it's more of just a general turn-on.

I then discovered that actually he watched quite a bit of porn and thought he had deleted it from his browsing history.

I was upset because a) he lied and b) he was being a hypocrite. It was weird thinking that he might be fantasising about having sex with other women as that is what he thought I did. But the actual just watching of porn to get oneself off is not really a problem for me.

Prefacing this with an acknowledgement that what follows is a generalisation:

There are still people - probably more women than men - who buy into the hearts 'n' flowers "we should be everything to each other" view of romantic relationships that is peddled from young teens onwards. A lot of those women therefore take it as a personal insult if they find that their partner uses porn, in a "why aren't I enough for him? Would he rather be with someone who looks like Porn Star X than me? OMG he's cheating!" self-doubt sort of way, without understanding that the pleasure their man gets from masturbating to porn isn't necessarily better or preferable to spending sexytime with their partner, it's just different and fulfils a different need at that point in time. No pressure, no worries about performance or making sure their woman has had her customary 27 orgasms, just a quick down-and-dirty release.

I think many couples have a healthy relationship with porn and use it as an adjunct to their physical relationship, whether that is together or separately. It becomes a problem when one partner is turning repeatedly to porn rather than be intimate with the other.

I'm happily married and still have enjoyable sex with my husband, but I use porn occasionally, mostly written erotica but tbh I would use more visual stimulation if there was more ethical porn available. The main thing that puts me off is the knowledge of the trafficking/control/drugs etc involved in the industry, which is why I tend to rely on 100% amateur sites such as Zoig.

YY Select fair trade porn - that'd be fab

Same page as SaucyJack and Festered.

Both my husband and I watch porn on occasion. Sometimes together, sometimes separately. And we have an active-happy sex life.

I have a MUCH higher sex drive than my wife of 10years
So i like to masterbate lookin at porn, it doesn't mean i love her less, but its stops me "doin her nut in" always tryin to try my luck, i'm thinkin of gettin myself 1 of those fake vaginas as a treat to myself ?? can any1 reccommend 1 lol

Thanks , never heard of Zoig , must check it out ;)

I think it's normal for both men and women to masturbate and watch/read porn while in relationships with good sex lives. Masturbation is different to se with you learner and fulfils different needs, or is useful when your partner isn't available eg asleep or away. It doesn't mean you love your partner any less.

I'd probably be a little freaked out if I caught my DP watching poo porn or something, but probably better watching it than asking me to take part!

OP, you must know an awful lot of dodge men! Do you know any that actually have hobbies, such as sport?

Why must op know dodgy men?

Why does having the odd wank mean they can't be into sport?