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AIBU?

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Who is BU?

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MummyPig24 · 16/09/2013 17:28

My dad and brother live together. Relationship is tempestuous due to dads alcoholism. His flat is up for sale, he has to sell for financial reasons. Huge debts, time is running out. Flat was "sold" but it fell through last week.

Luckily a few viewings have been booked, including a last minute one today and one early tomorrow. Dad text db to say they had a viewing, he had to put dbs clothes in the wardrobe and rubbish in the bin. Db replied "that's not ok at all, you need to respect my privacy and not go into my room or invite other people in without my approval." He will probably have a fit when he comes home. So settle it, who is BU?

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MaidOfStars · 16/09/2013 17:29

Your brother.

shoofly · 16/09/2013 17:33

Your brother is being an arse. If he is so particular about his privacy, then he needs to leave his room "viewer ready" at all times. Presumably he doesn't have a problem with a potential buyer looking at the room?

MrsGarlic · 16/09/2013 17:34

I think your brother should have been informed in advance of the viewing. I can understand why he isn't happy TBH. OTOH there probably wasn't much your dad could do if the viewing could lead to a sale, so your brother is overreacting a bit. But dad should let bro know of future viewings in advance.

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MummyPig24 · 16/09/2013 17:34

Well it sounds as though he does have a problem with a potential buyer looking at his room. I'm not sure what his problem is though!

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MummyPig24 · 16/09/2013 17:35

mrs garlic my dad informed my brother as soon as he knew, the estate agents phoned him today to ask if they could bring someone for a viewing so dad text db at work.

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Lj8893 · 16/09/2013 17:36

Your brother. How old is he? He sounds very immature!

digerd · 16/09/2013 17:39

Your DB. If there wasn't enough time for DB to get home and tidy his room himself before the viewers arrived today. It was so short notice. It would have been U for your dad to put off the viewers until DB could get home to do it.

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MummyPig24 · 16/09/2013 17:41

He's 23 believe it or not! He's become very belligerent recently. A generous friend of dads loaned him some money to pay this months mortgage (long story, lost his job, in debt etc, house sale was meant to go through this week but didn't). Db claimed not to understand why dad needed to pay the mortgage, saying its a civil matter, not a legal one and they can't repossess the flat. This is what he is like with everything recently, argumentative and immature!

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NatashaBee · 16/09/2013 17:46

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Lj8893 · 16/09/2013 17:48

Where are they planning to live once the house is sold? If I was your dad I would be telling your brother to sort himself out housing wise!

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MummyPig24 · 16/09/2013 17:57

Dad is going to pay off his debts and rent a smaller place. Db is not getting his act together finding his own place or saving a deposit.

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Lj8893 · 16/09/2013 18:09

He really does sound incredibly immature! That's obviously why he is kicking up a fuss and dragging his heels in regards to selling the house then, as he is scared about what he's going to do once its sold.

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