AIBU to be cross

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Okay, will try to keep this short! I arranged to collect 2 friends of DS for a birthday outing followed by lunch at my house, the boys then to be collected at 4pm today. The arrangements were confirmed by texts a couple of weeks ago. I sent a text yesterday just to say bring gloves (snow centre) and one dad phoned to say his son wouldn't be coming as he had other commitments. He just said that his son would come later for lunch. I was a bit cross as I had paid for the snow centre, and also they hadn't contacted earlier, only response to the text. If I hadn't texted we would have gone to collect him as arranged.

I said fine, bring him at 2pm for lunch. He finally arrived at 3pm and they then collected him at 4.30, half an hour late.

So, I am cross, is this U and should I have said something?

That is very very awful of them! No question. How fucking rude!

It's very difficult to know what to say though in such A situation, especially if the child is one of your son's good friends.

But ooh the bare-faced darn cheek! Did they apologise when they were late?

They didn't apologise for being late. Yesterday they did ask me to 'forgive them' for having another commitment. I guess I am cross because I hadn't been told and was planning to collect this child. Just wondering if they were going to wait for us to turn up to tell about other commitment.

I've had this my sons friend came round for tea etc after school his mum was at work until 8 so I said it was ok to pick him up then, 8:45 I text her to ask where she was she had popped to her mates for a yuck coffee!! Never mind I've got 2 kids to get to bed myself grrr anyhow no you are not being unreasonable I'd have been livid!

Fixlepix, how rude of her, things like this make you disinclined to invite the child again which is a shame when it is neither their fault or your own child's.

no yanbu that's really, really rude. and how unfair for your DS when 1 of his friends suddenly can't come for his birthday treat.
i'd definitely think twice about inviting them anywhere again.

Very rude, and your poor DS, were there other DC there so he didn't notice?

Only 2 invited so yes he was upset. It was too late notice to invite another friend, and rude to say someone's dropped out would you like to come. I have 2 older DS so they went and we paid for the extra place.

UANBU

How rude of them.

Norty of them. Re other replies, I remember too well the 'late pick up' when parent had decided to do something, usually for themselvesand not bothered to tell anyone about it until it was a fait acomplais Quite manipulative really.