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To think I am still mum?

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stella69x · 15/09/2013 20:11

DS 13.5 thinks I am totally unreasonable to remind him about homework washing chores etc. he thinks he should just be aloud to deal with the consequences.

Homework ok it's only his problem. Clean clothes that reflects on me, he might not be bothered with creased/dirty uniform but I am!
As for chores, all I ask is recycling put out and breakfast dishes putaway. Thingies of I leave it and remind after several days the recycling is xn issue coz there is do much. If I remind each day I'm nagging!

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Locketjuice · 15/09/2013 20:14

Tell him to stop being a lazy shit and pull his weight, when he moves out he can be a lazy scrub then Smile

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Bogeyface · 15/09/2013 20:17

So what are the consequences?

Homework, as you say, not your problem.

Uniform, I had this battle too until I realised that no one in their right mind would blame me for a 14 year old scruffy arse, they are old enough to dress themselves.

Recyling and breakfast dishes - what happens if he doesnt do it? You need to put in some rules so that he genuinely does have to deal with the consequences. So if he doesnt put his breakfast things away, he doesnt get any dinner that evening until he washes them, dries them and puts them away. He will only miss dinner once, I promise you! And the recycling, every day he doesnt take it out is a day that you remove his internet access. Again, it will only happen once!

Dont just roll your eyes and nag!

TheSurgeonsMate · 15/09/2013 20:18

?! The consequences are you saying "That recycling needs doing".

Sirzy · 15/09/2013 20:20

Stop cooking and cleaning for him and he will soon realise how lucky he is and change his ways.

If he can't get his uniform (and other clothes) into the wash basket (or whatever set up you have) then it won't be washed. He will have to wear dirty clothes until such a point as he decides he can be bothered to wash it.

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stella69x · 15/09/2013 20:27

Thanks guys, I am being a doormat and giving in to easily. I have with drawn cooking dinner til breakfast dishes are put away (that's all I ask, I wash them before going out to work ) but it makes dinner late and he doesn't learn form one day to another. I have removed Internet access, he just sits in room and reads I haven't a big enough storage space to remove all books!

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cardibach · 15/09/2013 21:13

If you are using the 'no dinner 'til breakfast sorted' thing, it shouldn't make your dinner late. You get yours, he just doesn't get his until it is done. I'm not sure it's a consequence I'd use, though.

parakeet · 15/09/2013 21:19

If he's going to be a baby, then treat him like one. Make him a nice big wall chart with his jobs for the day marked off. If he hasn't done his jobs, then no dinner til they get done, and if they are done late, then no pudding?

intitgrand · 15/09/2013 22:32

If he can't get his uniform (and other clothes) into the wash basket (or whatever set up you have) then it won't be washed. He will have to wear dirty clothes until such a point as he decides he can be bothered to wash it.
Have you got any boys that age .They would quite happily wear the same stinky clothes for weeks!!

Jinty64 · 15/09/2013 22:37

Does he get pocket money or an allowance? Withhold it.

MmmmWhiteWine · 15/09/2013 23:52

Personally, I'd be much more worried about a lack of homework reflecting on me than a lack of clean uniform.

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