LTB...EA

[Dam58]

AIBU to think that a significant portion of posters have the same answer for every issue?

If everyone LTB would anyone be married?

Excluding EA of both kinds, ive seen so many threads where pple tell the OP to leave because her dh is being a selfish twat etc.

Are we women ever selfish, thoughtless or rude & demanding at times, should our dh leave us. Surely that would be UB?

EVERYTHING is EA on here and i think it actually minimises the seriousness of EA by using it so often.

Everyone always wants to call SS. I saw a thread last week where the woman was walking the dog everynight when her husband was away working, she left her otherwise, well cared for baby in her cot indoors.
Cue the rage, call SS she's an abuser OMG.
Poor cow.

If a baby is being left unattended in a cot while her mother takes the dog for a walk then someone has seriously fucked up with their priorities.

Dam
One of the problems with Emotional Abuse is that it is so gradual and insidious that the OP often doesn't realise that it has happened. One off crappy behaviour because you've had a bad day is not EA. Persistent undermining, OP having to give up her plans on a regular basis because the partners wants take priority etc. is; even it the individual incidents appear minor.

Often it gets repeated on the thread because its hard for the OP to see what is happening because he/she is so habituated to it.

I think I may want to call SS if I knew someone was leaving their baby indoors on its own. I would be worried the mother has not actually realised the risks. Do people actually leave their babies indoors and walk the dog?

I would also leave my DH if he was a selfish twat as I want me and my DCs to be happy. Obviously we are all selfish at times but it surely depends on actually how bad it is! I would also work on the marriage if both parties were willing.

I am not sure I understand what your question is, surely there are some instances where it is in fact the correct and only response!

I do not agree with any child being left alone. The OP was rightly concerned but the lady in question had a newborn ( i think..or ver little) and a dh who worked away, she mst have found it difficult to manage. Instead of offering to walk the bloody dog or even putting a note through the door the best supportive MN answer was call SS? How the hell does that help the mother or baby shes sooo concerned about.

Its all very reactionary and unhelpful sometimes.

I really suspect that some OP's have another agenda and come here for a cackle of outrage and encouragement to justify to themselves doing something that would otherwise be malicious behaviour.

hissy do you really demand good treatment? if someone demanded anything from me they would get a poke in the eye end of - i would not put up with that kind of entitled behaviour from anyone about anything.

yes too many people on here jump the gun and have very active imaginations about the other half of the poster - and yes they always know best.

PErsonally, I don't understand why some people assume that the Relationships board of MN is real life.

WOmen (and occasionally men) post on Relationships when things of gone wrong. Generally speaking, those in happy/functional/largely ok relationships don't post. Even if the advice of LTB was given for every Relationships post, that still wouldn't do much to skew the divorce statistics - unless you believe that most marriages are unhappy.

things have gone wrong not of