We usually go out for a meal before Christmas and as its that time of year, these things do need to be booked a while in advance. It is always down to me to organise group things as well although I do get annoyed that I usually have to do a fair bit of chasing and reminding when I don't feel I should, but I end up doing it anyway (everyone is always grateful to me for doing it, it isn't a case of me hassling them).
I texted (our usual method of communication) around on Friday to see if people would be interested in doing a meal out this year and I am happy to organise it if people want to go (generally people want to come along but no one wants to do the organising).
I have had 1 response (a yes) but that's it. Not even anyone saying "sorry not up for it this year" or anything like that. They would have no problem saying this if this was the case and it wouldn't bother me either but SOME sort of reply would be a decent thing to do. These are not casual acquaintances either, but my group of closest friends.
I sent the same thing to a group of school mums to see if they would also be up for it as a way of getting to know each other better (not the same time as my friends, but a separate time) and I got all but 1 response straight away.
I don't understand why my closest friends don't have the courtesy to reply, but a group of women who chat briefly before and after school, all reply. I know them, if they haven't replied by now, then they won't be as they all seem to 'forget' or do the "oh yeah, you know what I'm like" thing because they are sooo scatty and disorganised.
I admit this continued attitude does piss me off a bit. It doesn't take 10 seconds to send a quick response of "yes count me in" or "sorry can't make it this year". I just find it a bit rude really. AIBU?