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To ask you all to give me a big kick up the arse

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LadyRabbit · 15/09/2013 12:09

I have up smoking for ages, years, in fact. Before getting pg and long after.
But I have slipped up this week and started again.
I am so angry with myself. Angry Sad
I know it makes me feel awful, I know it could give me cancer and yet I still went out and bought a pack after a particularly trying week.
Please remind me why it's shit to smoke and why everything will be better if I don't. I also need to hear from people who smoked for years and have kicked the habit once and for all.

OP posts:
farrowandbawl · 15/09/2013 12:12

Remember that sick and dizzy feeling you get after your first few drags?

Did you like it?

Travelledtheworld · 15/09/2013 12:12

Lung cancer.
Heart disease
Throat cancer

Yellow fingers.

You stink !

For starters !

elcranko · 15/09/2013 13:12

Its SO bad for your health.

Smelly clothes and hair.

It costs a fortune.

If you go out you'll have to stand outside in the rain and freezing cold to smoke.

I'm currently trying to kick the habit for the millionth time too so clearly my own advice didn't work on myself Confused

Have you tried an e-cig? I've got one and my cig intake has reduced by half so far.

maras2 · 15/09/2013 14:37

It's a bastard isn't it.I quit a 40 year 20 a day habit 6 years ago.I did it cold turkey and it was hard.However what is harder is very occasionally wanting ' just one ' but knowing that I'd soon be back on 20 a day.Fortunately my DH doesn't smoke and the majority of my circle of friends and family have quit.The thing that helps most to stay away from the fags is knowing that I've saved almost as much as our first house cost since quitting.Also we now have 2 GCs. and one on the way so no worries about 2nd and 3rd hand passive smoking.Good luck.Sorry not very helpfull but just letting you know that I understand how hard it is.

Jolleigh · 15/09/2013 15:00

Pretend you're pregnant. It's taken me getting upduffed to finally stop after 10 years and many failed attempts. E-cigs can be great and taste loads better. I definitely recommend one...my most successful attempt before falling pregnant was with one.

Now the OH kisses me after a fag and to me, he couldn't smell worse if he rolled in dog shit.

MissMuesli · 15/09/2013 15:02

How old are your children? Maybe ask them....

Designed to be snooty for effect and motivation!

Anniegetyourgun · 15/09/2013 15:03

It's like rolling up five pound notes and setting light to them. So many better things you could do with that money.

Jellybeanz1 · 15/09/2013 15:04

Oh Maras2 Im the same, Ive given up 22 years cold turkey after my then boyfriend died of lung cancer. It seemed too disrespectful to carry on but it doesn't stop the very occasional desire. I know I couldnt have just one, and friends know not to tempt me. I don't feel I could have afforded to do the outings and holidays for the children if I still smoked. I couldn't walk up my hill without a break either. Good luck getting back there.

DuchessFanny · 15/09/2013 15:05

I quit for good when my best friends Dad was diagnosed with terminal lung cancer. The family were devastated and now he's passed away they are all struggling very much with their loss .. He was a loving Dad and GF and just the idea that he could have been around for much longer switched something in me.
Plus it stinks, and it's expensive.
I know it's hard and the best of luck ! You've quit before, you can do it again.

Jellybeanz1 · 15/09/2013 15:08

I like Annies point about £5 notes. Is that what they cost? Why don't you treat yourself with the money as encouragement until you've put a bit more successful distance between your initial resolve and your new habit.

AthelstaneTheUnready · 15/09/2013 15:21

When I gave up Lady it took about a week for my face to become creamy and pink again, instead of slightly yellow; about two weeks for my eyes to become REALLY shiny; just one day before I stopped having to cough for a few minutes when I lay down to sleep; just two days for the wheezy noise to stop completely; and I STILL enjoy taking really deep breaths now and then, just because I can.

I still want one now and again - if I'm doing something I haven't done since stopping, my brain tries to remind me that it's at this point I should be having a cigarette. Which is when I have one of those slightly unhinged silent arguments with myself: "don't tell me what to do", "I will if I want!", "bugger off and leave me alone", "don't be such a prissy knickers" etc etc. A few minutes of this and I've forgotten it all started because I actually wanted a cigarette...

maras2 · 15/09/2013 15:45

Sorry for your loss Jelly. Mx.

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LadyRabbit · 15/09/2013 16:16

Thank you everyone for your wisdom.
My biggest problem is that I never smoke more than 5 a day - but I have been doing that on and off for nearly twenty years Shock but I thought once I had my DS I'd never start again... I've never let him see me and have never ever smoked in doors. But I'm ashamed of myself for thinking a fag is an antidote to a bad day and how one fag and I'm back, hooked. Also I can really feel my chest going weird after only a few days back on the fags. It pisses me off because I have no problem not drinking booze for months on end.
Have destroyed packet and chucked it in the bin.
I really really never want to smoke again.
My grandfather died of mouth cancer brought about by smoking so I should know better.

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poorpaws · 15/09/2013 16:34

Well done for throwing them. I gave up for 19 years when I had daughter. Aged 19 she started smoking, gave me one and I was hooked again. Took me years to quit and it was very hard. I went on to nicotine gum (which I was addicted to) then ordinary chewing gum (which I became addicted to). I've been free of dreaded ciggies for about 7 years or more and will NEVER try one again cos it was too difficult to give up. Keep trying OP, it's well worth it (I couldn't afford them now, they are a ridiculous price so treat yourself to something nice instead).

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 15/09/2013 16:37

I've been dragged back in over the past 3months after 5 years without. So mad at myself.

I am going to quit though. I hate it, it's vile.

grants1000 · 15/09/2013 16:39

Your kids faces sobbing as your coffin is being lowered into the ground.

My Mum said this to me and I gave up on the spot 11 years ago.

poorpaws · 15/09/2013 16:47

puds stop today, do it now. You hate it, STOP. You'll never regret stopping

sleepyhead · 15/09/2013 16:48
  • The sound of my 50 yr old neighbour hacking up his lungs every morning after 40 years on the fags
  • Passing my 40ish yr old neighbour on the stairs as he stops to psyche himself up to climbing the last flight (emphysema after 30 years on the fags)
  • The loneliness of my old downstairs neighbour in his final years without his wife after she died of lung cancer after living with a heavy smoker for all of her life. He died of heart disease a few years later.

That's every smoker in our building over the age of 40 suffering from a smoking related chronic condition.

My aunt started smoking again a couple of years ago after a few years off. It's meant to be a secret but you can smell it on her clothes as soon as you meet her. Her face looks 10 years older than her older sister's, especially around the mouth.

strawberryblondebint · 15/09/2013 16:50

This is probably controversial bit go and get an e cig. See the nest of vapers thread

elinorbellowed · 15/09/2013 18:03

I just visualise my children without a mother because she has a smoking related terminal illness. Or when I don't want to be that harsh on myself I remember how often they still get into bed with me and that they could develop asthma from breathing my stale smoke. It always works.

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