I wanted to know your thoughts and I'm telling you all now that I've not lost my temper yet to avoid family rowing but feeling pretty hurt. Basically my brother and I are about 4 hours driving distance apart and myself and dh had to move away about 8 years ago from my family due to work relocation. I've always felt as it was mine and dh's decision to move away so we visit them more often maybe about 6-8 times a year and in the 8 years I've been living where I am my brother has been to visit twice.
My db has 2 girls of his own separated from his ex and fallen madly in love again which is great. She is very nice, has 5 kids of her own and I genuinely do not have any issues with her. Late last year they said they were getting married and they'd booked the wedding for February. I was really happy for them and then they announced that she was pregnant and moving the wedding to August so they could have christening and wedding together. I thought this was also fine but then they changed their minds again and decided for the wedding to be in 1st week of July on a Friday so I couldn't bring the kids despite my brother having told my dd she would be a bridesmaid.
Now for the christening part, so because they've done the wedding they said they were keeping the same date from the August dates to still have a joint part for the wedding and christening. However no invitations were sent out so I assumed there was no christening so booked a week holiday away for the summer holidays. I paid the deposit (non refundable) and then a week later I was sent an invite for the christening over Facebook for the christening to take place 2 weeks later. They'd promised all aling that I was going to be a godmother and I said that I couldn't go but I genuinely did not know what to do. My mum also said that she couldn't go and then from what I can gather because of he amount of no shows from other people they said they would change it to September. So the christening is tomorrow and now I have found out I cannot be a godmother today because I do not have a christening certificate and the vicar is apparently refusing to allow anyone without a christening certificate to be a godmother! Last Monday we were again asked over Facebook about who was staying for food. The godmother thing I am hacked off about but it is more just everything is done over Facebook dates are constantly being changed and I feel pretty pissed off with it all. I need to drive there and back tomorrow but the weather is set to be dire ith 30-4mph winds and my dh cannot be with me as he is flying away. Over the next 6 weeks he is away and only coming back weekends so my weekends with him are pretty precious. My mum is very upset as one of the godfathers has been in prison for supplying drugs in the past and yet he still gets to remain as a godfather!
Please, please let me know your thoughts as I can't work this one out - I feel hacked off with it all but I'm trying to give them the benefit of the doubt at the same time with them looking after so many kids. Sorry such a long one x